Olly Murs reveals he ‘struggles with loneliness’ after his estrangement from twin brother Ben with the pair now leading ‘separate lives’

Olly Murs has revealed he ‘struggled with loneliness’ after becoming estranged from his twin brother Ben.

The Troublemaker singer, 40, missed his brother’s wedding in 2009 to take part in the semi-final of The X Factor and the pair have not spoken since.

Now, Olly  has admitted that in the years that followed their sudden separation that he struggled to cope on his own.

He told The Saturday Times: ‘When you’ve been in the womb with someone, you struggle with loneliness. I had to deal with it when my twin and I went on our separate lives.  

‘I was desperate to be around people, could not sit in a room alone. 

 Olly Murs ‘struggled with loneliness’ after becoming estranged from his twin brother Ben (pictured in November 2022)

The Troublemaker singer, 40, missed his brother's wedding in 2009 to take part in the semi-final of The X Factor and the pair have not spoken since

The Troublemaker singer, 40, missed his brother’s wedding in 2009 to take part in the semi-final of The X Factor and the pair have not spoken since

The Heart Skips A Beat hitmaker tied the knot with Amelia Tank in  the summer of 2023 and they recently welcomed baby Madi but he admitted that in the years that he was single, he had to learn to enjoy being alone. 

He added: ‘When I was single for three years, I had to learn to like my own company. That’s when I met Amelia.’

Olly did not give any indication of whether he and his brother will ever be on speaking terms again but did share that his life goal is now to be the best husband and father he can be. 

He added: ‘My aim in life is to be a great husband and father — that’s where my future lies. I’d love my career to continue as it is, but when you get married and become a dad, you just want to be the best for them.’

But it isn’t only Olly who his brother has left behind, with Ben also distancing himself from his parents and their sister, as the Dear Darlin’ hitmaker admitted ‘Christmas has never been the same’ since.

On their feud, Ben told MailOnline in January 2017: ‘I was very close to my parents, but fame and greed changed everything. 

‘My parents wanted this bright, shiny Olly with the money who can give them the VIP lifestyle. They liked hanging around with Simon Cowell, or going to Bon Jovi concerts – they loved their VIP selfies.

The Essex star rose to fame as a finalist on the 2009 edition of the ITV competition series (pictured with Stacey Solomon and eventual winner Joe McElderry)

 The Essex star rose to fame as a finalist on the 2009 edition of the ITV competition series (pictured with Stacey Solomon and eventual winner Joe McElderry)

The pair have not spoken since Olly shot to fame on the ITV talent show  (pictured together before their feud)

The pair have not spoken since Olly shot to fame on the ITV talent show  (pictured together before their feud)

Ben is also estranged from his parents, and took on his wife Amy's last name Hart after tying the knot in 2009

Ben is also estranged from his parents, and took on his wife Amy’s last name Hart after tying the knot in 2009

Olly met Amelia Tank (pictured) in 2019 and they got married in the summer of 2023

Olly met Amelia Tank (pictured) in 2019 and they got married in the summer of 2023 

The former Voice judge and  bodybuilder Amelia, 31, announced the arrival of their baby girl , Madison in Aprul

The former Voice judge and  bodybuilder Amelia, 31, announced the arrival of their baby girl , Madison in Aprul 

‘I’m not interested in anything like that, I have a lovely life with my wife and kids.’

But Olly is still keen to make amends with his brother at some point.

On burying the hatchet, the media personality explained: ‘I still want to make that change with my brother.’ 

Asked by Lorraine Kelly in 2018 if he though the rift could ever heal, Olly said: ‘I hope so, of course, it’s mad because every year I think about it, (will it be) nine years, 10 years.

‘I did text him for his birthday but he changed his number. Christmas has never been the same.’ 

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