A TikToker has caused a stir after posting a video of her ex-husband complaining about his discomfort in hospital while she was in labor, preparing to deliver their daughter.
As a warning to other women with ‘narcissistic’ partners, Mariah Lee, who is based in the US, posted two clips demonstrating an example of her ex’s ‘selfish’ behavior captioned with the hashtags #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #narcissistsurvivor.
In the videos, her now-former partner is seen moaning about the fact he hasn’t got his own ‘proper’ bed, he has no pillow and he is hungry.
At the beginning of the first video Mariah asks: ‘Because I have to prepare my body to push a whole other human being out what do you have to prepare for?’
A woman has shared videos of her now ex-husband complaining about his discomfort while she was in labor in the hospital
Her partner replies with a grin on his face: ‘I have to be inconvenienced, I have to be out of my environment, I have to be away from my TV, the food I want to eat, I can’t be comfortable, this chair’s not comfortable.’
He continues, unaware that Mariah is filming him: ‘This is a dual process you know?
‘When you have the baby, okay fine, spotlight’s on you, but in the meantime it’s supposed to be give and take. I’m supposed to be comfortable too!’
When Mariah tells her ex that she didn’t sleep well the night before and the bed isn’t comfortable, he tells her at least she has a bed and a mattress.
‘Like an animal they treat me!’ he exclaims.
In a follow-up video, Mariah’s ex describes it as not being ‘an ideal circumstance’, adding that, if it was a hotel room with a bed and minibar, things might be better.
Mariah Lee (pictured right) said she caught her ex texting another woman while she was trying to talk to him
Envisioning his ideal scenario, he continues: ‘Maybe a blackjack table… a cocktail… maybe I could go for a spa treatment, sauna haircut, manicure.’
Following his remarks, Mariah asks her then-partner why he is there to which he responds: ‘I’m here here to support you through this process.’
But she tells him that he is not supportive and when she asks him to rub her back because she is in pain, he declines.
At one point, the mom-to-be said she caught him texting another woman while she was trying to talk to him.
Trauma bonds are real! This man started the cycle when I was only 19 and really didn’t understand the signs or of the abuse cycle
To make matters worse, when it came to actually giving birth, the umbilical cord wrapped around her daughter’s neck and her husband started gagging to get attention from the medical team.
Mariah wrote: ‘Had my mom not been there to help me and assure the doctor he was fine I don’t know what would have happened.’
To date, her videos have been viewed more than 1.2 million times with many viewers slamming her ex over his behavior.
Annie Magnan commented: As a L&D (labor and delivery) nurse, I would have words for him. I’ve told unsupportive partners off before. Thankfully I haven’t had to do it in a long time.’
While Ember Dawn said Mariah’s story struck a chord, writing: ‘A whole child in an adult body. It’s sad. Mine was mad that he had to drive me to the hospital at like 1am and screamed at me during rides to obstetrician appointments.’
Mariah says that she has since filed for divorce and the paperwork is currently pending.
The mother-of-two shared her experience of narcissistic behavior as a warning to others
Mariah thanks her children for giving her a reason to ‘wake up every day’
As a warning to others the mental health advocate concluded: ‘Trauma bonds are real! This man started the cycle when I was only 19 and really didn’t understand the signs or of the abuse cycle.
‘It wasn’t until a domestic abuse advocate educated me on just how wrong the things he was doing actually were. She read a notebook I kept and asked how I was able to wake up every day. My answer: 1. My kids 2. What other choice did I have.
‘She was amazing and helped me get away from him. Reliving this is hard, but sharing is important.
‘This video was actually a fairly nice exchange on his spectrum of abuse. I know there are more women out there who have the gut feeling, but he wins with the trauma bond every time.
‘I want to show that these things add up. If your gut is saying something’s wrong, trust it. I thought I owed my girls a two parent household because I never got one. The truth is a one parent happy home is the best option! For all my other survivors out there, you can do it too!’
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