A romance novelist has revealed that a man she went on a coffee date with bought two cake pops and ate both of them in front of her — without even offering her one.
Author Alisha Rai took to Twitter on Valentine’s Day to open up about her disappointing date and inadvertently started a heated online debate about whether or not the man’s actions were a red flag.
‘Yesterday I met a guy for coffee and he asked what I’d like to drink and went and fetched the order,’ she explained. ‘And he came back with two cake pops and I was like aw that’s cute! And then he ate them both. In front of me. ………….so like he’s clearly a monster right.’
Thoughts? Author Alisha Rai took to Twitter on Valentine’s Day to ask if her date was a ‘monster’ for eating two cake pops in front of her without asking if she wanted one
Yikes: In her tweets, she explained that she initially thought he had surprised her with a cake pop, but then he went on to eat both of them
‘It’s a whole day (almost twenty four hours) later and I am still marveling over this man who is on a date and buys two whole cake pops—which is equal to the number of people on this date—and doesn’t offer a single cake pop. To said date,’ she continued.
‘I never want to feel that way again,’ she noted. ‘I should add they were Valentine’s cake pops with little hearts on them.’
Alisha’s tweets have received more than 358,000 likes, and many people agreed that the man was indeed a monster.
‘Every day I wake up. And I’m like, “surely men have run out of ways to be trash, right? There are no more ways.” One scroll later, and I see s**t like this,’ one person wrote.
‘That’s the type of monster who wouldn’t share a floating door when the Titanic stinks. Cut him loose,’ someone else insisted.
Old enough to know? The Right Swipe author revealed in the comments that the man is 42 years old, but she didn’t share any more details
How could he? Alisha’s story started a heated debate about date etiquette, with many agreeing that the man was indeed a monster, or at the very least inconsiderate
‘Did he leave the coffee shop get on a plane and then whack the seat in front of him over and over? Cause it sounds like something he might do,’ another tweeted, referring to an airline passenger who recently made headlines for punching the seat of the woman in front of him because she had reclined it.
Critics agreed that his thoughtless actions were a huge red flag, with one Twitter user explaining that he had given her ‘an instant snapshot of what marriage to him would be like.’
Another shared a photo of a cardboard box filled with red flags to make her thoughts about the situation clear.
One person even went as far as quoting Maya Angelou, writing: ‘When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.’
Despite the immense backlash, not everyone was convinced that the guy was in the wrong for treating himself to not one, but two cake pops.
Difference of opinions: Despite the immense backlash, not everyone was convinced that the guy was in the wrong for treating himself to not one, but two cake pops in front of her
‘Y’all sound entitled to something you could just as easily go up and pay for yourself,’ one person commented.
‘The whole debate seems very strange to me,’ another admitted. ‘Am I the only person who simply orders what she wants without expecting someone else to cater for me? I would never expect someone else’s dessert.’
Someone else stressed that it really depended on his age, explaining: ‘If he’s in his 30s, then yes. If he’s 23 tho, he just hasn’t learned yet.’
But it was a moot point because Alisha commented and revealed that the man is actually 42 years old.
Those who were against the guy’s inconsiderate actions stressed that it is just a simple case of manners.
‘It’s not whether or not she wanted a cake pop though,’ someone explained. ‘It’s the principle. Basic manners 101 if you’re going to get something you offer it to the other person. EVERYTIME I’m somewhere to order something I say “I’m getting [ __ ], do you want one?” Just kind of a respect thing yk.’
Sliding into her DMs: After sharing her story, Alisha learned that there are plenty of men out there who would be more than happy to share a cake pop with her
With all the attention her tweet had gotten, Alisha took the opportunity to plug her new book, The Right Swipe.
‘If you like my tweets, you may like my books. They’re like my tweets, but longer and have a happy ending and if they sell I get more time to tweet (and date),’ she tweeted.
She added: ‘If you’re a part of Humorless Twitter and have decided to spend days berating me for being (clearly the world’s least ambitious) gold digger, you may not like my books. Or really anything, I imagine. I’m sorry.’
Funnily enough, after sharing her story, she learned that there are plenty of men out there who would be more than happy to share a cake pop with her.
‘I peeked into my DMs and it seems to just be a string of men offering to buy me a cake pop,’ she tweeted on Monday.
‘Look, as far as dm slides go, this is extraordinarily wholesome. Less d**k pics, men, more cake propositions.’