A matchmaker and dating guru has revealed the tell-tale signs to look out for so you know if your relationship is built for the long haul.
Samantha Jayne, from Sydney – who has worked her love spells on The Bachelor Australia – shares the indicators of lasting romance.
So how can you tell if your partner is a keeper? Here, the matchmaker and dating expert shares secret signs of long-lasting love.
‘Studies have found that couples who enjoy the same TV programs are three times happier than those that don’t,’ she told FEMAIL.
‘When you are with someone who wants the same things, your relationship is in “flow” and things are easy.’
Sydney based matchmaker and relationship expert, Samantha Jayne, (pictured) has revealed the signs you should be looking for that show you’re relationship will last the long haul
SAME INTERESTS
Samantha brought forward the old idiom that is birds who flock together stay together.
‘Things that are important are whether or not you’d like to have a family, your financial goals and whether you like travel,’ she said.
‘Are you a home body or someone that goes out all the time? Whether you’re neat or messy or enjoy similar music and TV programs are all important,’ she explained.
A couple needs to be on the path of growing together instead of growing apart for it to work.
Although relationships are filled with compromise, it’s important your values are aligned.
A couple needs to be on the path of growing together instead of growing apart for a relationship to work
BE YOURSELF
‘The goal in your relationship is to grow a close connection and maintain a separate identity,’ Samantha said.
‘In the long haul you’ll be happier, more optimistic and your relationship will be more passionate.’
Your partner should accept and love you for who you are and not want to change core aspects of yourself.
It is also important to ensure that you have a life outside of your partner – having time alone is necessary.
COMMUNICATE OPENLY
‘It’s important to be able to have healthy communication with your partner, that means being about to discuss your needs, when you feel happy, hurt or if there is something on your mind,’ she said.
‘Just like you’d tell a friend without the fear of rejection your relationship should be the same.’
If you’re going to be together for a long time, you need to be able to get it all out in the open.
Talking about difficult topics — sex, money, and politics — is tough but it’s important to be comfortable talking about uncomfortable things.
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BOTH ADMIT WHEN YOU’RE WRONG
Samantha said another building block of a healthy long term relationship is being able to admit when you’re wrong.
‘Nobody likes to be wrong but sometimes in a relationship it’s important to admit when you are wrong, it shows you are fighting fair, not overly dramatic and understanding,’ she said.
She said this is what helps to build trust, which is an essential part of any relationship.
‘When you feel insecure this can cause hiccups and unnecessary jealous arguments,’ Samantha said.
‘Trust is underrated, you can’t be together 24/7 and even if you could it is unhealthy. Having trust in a relationship gives you peace of mind and makes you feel safe.’
Samantha said that another building block of a healthy relationship that is built for the long run is being able to admit when you’re wrong
PLAY TOGETHER
‘Fun, variety and adventure keeps your relationship passionate, it also helps reduce stress and releases healthy feel good endorphins,’ she said.
‘Having fun also gives you something to look forward, makes you feel more energy and helps maintain a connection.’
Samantha encourages couples to schedule fun time together which is something that needs to be a priority.
This could be as simple as going to see a movie, going to an art gallery or seeing live music.
Samantha encourages couples to schedule fun time together which is something that needs to be a priority
BE SUPPORTIVE OF ONE ANOTHER
‘When the going gets tough, a couple who supports each other will stand the test of time,’ Samantha continued.
‘There is nothing worse than a partner who runs away when things are tough, this sabotages the relationship.
‘Being there during tough times increases the feeling of safety and family and builds a stronger than ever emotional bond.’
Samantha said that you both need to meet each other’s needs and love doing so
PHYSICAL TOUCH
Samantha said that you both need to meet each other’s needs and love doing so.
‘Both sexual and non-sexual touch is important in a relationship. Touching someone releases oxytocin – the hormone responsible for bonding,’ she said.
‘Physical touch doesn’t have to be sexual, it can be holding hands, cuddling on the couch or a massage.’