Getting dumped is never great, but if it appears to come out of the blue, this can make it even harder to accept.
Fortunately, scientists have revealed the six biggest ‘red flags’ in relationships, to help you get to the bottom of what may have gone wrong.
These are being clingy, promiscuous, unmotivated, apathetic, ‘gross’ and addicted to drugs.
‘What people want may only be one part of mate choice, with people also eliminating potential partners possessing dealbreakers,’ the researchers wrote in their study, published in Personality and Individual Differences.
Scientists have revealed the six biggest ‘red flags’ that people see as relationship dealbreakers. These are being clingy, promiscuous, unmotivated, apathetic and ‘gross’
Being clingy is one of the biggest turn offs in the short-term, and the researches say this is because it inhibits a partner’s nonparental reproductive efforts (stock image)
In the study, researchers analysed existing research on relationship dealbreakers which listed 49 of them.
They asked 285 university students to indicate which of these would make them lose interest in a short or long-term relationship.
This revealed that lack of interest was likely to put an end to a long-term relationship, as this shows a lack of parental ability.
However, being clingy is one of the biggest turn offs in the short-term, and the researchers say this is because it inhibits a partner’s nonparental reproductive efforts – in other words, casual sex.
Unsurprisingly, poor personal hygiene was also a significant dealbreaker for relationships of any length.
The researchers, from Charles University in the Czech Republic, University of Colorado in the USA and University of Padua in Italy, wrote: ‘From an evolutionary point of view, our dealbreakers confirm long-standing theories on what is important in a potential partner.
‘People want mates who are fertile (i.e., not smelling bad, not having STDs, being attractive) and good parents (i.e., being trustworthy, ambitious, attentive, caring) of our offspring.
‘Of course, certain characteristics are more problematic following a short-term (e.g., clingy, jealous, controlling) than a long-term (e.g., unfaithful) mating strategy.’
A 2015 study from Western Sydney University identified the original 49 relationship dealbreakers, but did not perform further analysis.
However, the international team hypothesised that the actual list of dealbreakers would be smaller than that, and would be composed of features that ‘impose costs on people’.
This could include threats of sexually transmitted disease, relationship threats like infidelity and personality problems like insecurity.
Students rated each of the 49 ‘dealbreakers’ from a previous study on how strongly they regarded them as a dealbreaker in short-term and long-term relationships. The researchers used statistical analysis to classify all the dealbreakers into six main factors (pictured)
It was found that older women see more items that fell under ‘Gross’ or ‘Unmotivated’ as dealbreakers than younger women (stock image)
For their new study, they recruited the students, with an average age of 22, to help narrow them down.
They completed three tests, where the first two highlighted how important different traits were to them and how open they were in a relationship.
The third involved them rating each of the 49 items on how strongly they regarded them as a dealbreaker in short-term and long-term relationships.
They were presented as ‘bits of information you learn about a person that might make you lose interest in the potential partner’.
Finally, the researchers used their responses and statistical analysis to classify all the dealbreakers into six main factors.
Poor hygiene and unattractiveness both fell in the ‘gross’ category, and the researchers say this could be because they reveal information about the potential mate’s health.
They also found that women had more dealbreakers in each of the six categories than men did.
‘Because women have higher rates of obligatory investment in offspring, women tend to maintain higher standards,’ they wrote.
It was also found that older women see more items that fell under ‘Gross’ or ‘Unmotivated’ as dealbreakers than younger women.
Participants who were more open to uncommitted sex reported fewer relationship dealbreakers.
This was seen particularly in the context of short-term relationships for all factors except ‘Clingy’.
Indeed, participants with high ‘mate value’ – ie view themselves as valuable partners – reported more dealbreakers than others in both long and short-term relationships.
The researchers wrote: ‘Mates who are clingy or addicted to drugs should be unappealing to those with high mate value because those with high mate value can afford to reject those who have low value.’
As many previous studies have looked deeply at ‘dealmakers’ – a partner’s upsides – the researchers suggest that further work should look into whether these compliment of compete with dealbreakers.
‘The traits that people do not want in a mate may serve as initial culling features, operating before affirmative processes take over,’ they wrote.
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