With Valentine’s Day just weeks away, couples all over the world are trying to decide how to surprise their sweetheart.
But everyone knows that the holiday’s real gifts are given in the bedroom.
And sex therapist Isiah McKimmie has shared her tips with FEMAIL for steaming up things in honour of the February 14 holiday.
In the lead-up to Valentine’s Day, McKimmie recommends that couples build up their intimacy outside of the bedroom to help their connection once the lights go off.
Sex therapist Isiah McKimmie has shared her tips with FEMAIL for steaming up things in the bedroom on Valentine’s Day
‘Put some thought and effort into planning your Valentine’s Day together, and what you might like to try in the bedroom,’ she told Daily Mail Australia.
While sexy lingerie is a fun way to mix things up on the holiday, McKimmie said it is still ‘really important’ that women feel comfortable.
‘But try to stretch yourself a little,’ she added. ‘Try something a little different to your regular underwear.’
‘Something timeless and lacy can help you feel sexy and confident.’
When Valentine’s Day arrives, McKimmie recommends building anticipation by sexting throughout the day.
‘Research has shown that women who engage in sexting with their partner during the day are more likely to reach orgasm during sex in the evening,’ she said.
McKimmie recommends building anticipation planning Valentine’s Day with your partner and then sexting throughout the day before you see each other
‘It’s also a great way to bring a smile to your partner’s face.’
When it’s time for the bedroom, McKimmie said it is important that couples make take their time with each other.
‘We have such busy lives, the reality is that if we don’t make time for intimacy with our partner, it doesn’t happen – or it only happens late at night when you’re both tired,’ she said.
‘Making time for sex ensures that it happens, and allows you to relax and enjoy it more.’
‘Spending at least 20 minutes in foreplay can enhance enjoyment and increases your chances of having an orgasm.’
For those who’d like to introduce new props, McKimmie suggests playing with a blindfold to really spice the night up
Even the less adventurous couples can mix things up with something small, whether it’s lighting a candle to starting with a massage or a shower together.
And for those who’d like to introduce new props, McKimmie suggests playing with a blindfold to really spice the night up.
‘Taking away the sense of sight involves a lot of trust and can build intimacy,’ she said. ‘It also enhances the other senses, such as touch.’
McKimmie said it is also important to give your lover positive feedback throughout the night.
‘Telling your partner what you’re enjoying is a great way to increase turn on for both of you, and can be a good way to start “talking dirty,”‘ she said.
And McKimmie said it can always help to give your partner a ‘little show of your pleasure’.
‘Yes, it’s vulnerable,’ she said. ‘But that’s what makes it so beautifully intimate.’
Even the less adventurous couples can mix things up with something small, whether it’s lighting a candle to starting with a massage or shower together