A mother has revealed she is considering posting lingerie snaps on social media as she works on her confidence – but confessed she is afraid that others might think it’s ‘desperate and attention seeking.’
Taking to parenting platform Mumsnet, the anonymous British woman explained that she ‘never felt beautiful or feminine’ and is working on her ‘self-esteem.’
After a friend treated her to a burlesque photoshoot to help with her confidence, she felt it would be ’empowering’ to share the snaps online.
However other users had mixed responses, with some saying it is ‘cringe’, while others said she should do it because it can be ‘powerful.’
One person called it ‘tacky and tasteless’, writing: ‘Please don’t. It’s so cringey. Posting pics like that no matter how ‘tasteful’ they are – especially if you’ve never posted pics like it before just screams ‘look at me, look at me. Like and comment!’ It’s not empowering at all.’
A British mother has revealed on Mumsnet she is considering posting lingerie snaps on social media as she works on her confidence (stock image)
Sharing her thoughts on the site, the woman wrote: ‘To post lingerie shots on my social media’.
She said she was ‘long term lacking in body confidence’, adding she had ‘never felt very beautiful or feminine.’
She wrote: ‘I’ve been working on my self-esteem recently and a friend who is a photographer treated me to a burlesque shoot.
‘She said it would be a very empowering thing to do, and it was. I actually felt sexy and beautiful and powerful.’
The poster continued: ‘The pictures have come through and I’m so happy with them.
‘I want to post them on my social media but am worried that it will come off as vain, desperate, attention seeking etc.
‘There is lots of c*** on social media but then I think of some of the women I follow who post lingerie / swimwear images and I don’t judge them at all.
‘I think they are beautiful and confident. I want to do that too. Or is it vacuous and shameful?’
A woman revealed on Mumsnet that she wants to post lingerie snaps on my social media but she is afraid that others might think it’s ‘desperate and attention seeking’
Some people said it’s powerful to share the racy snaps and others revealed they also share lingerie pics online.
One person wrote: ‘I post mine as it’s part of (one of) my jobs. On IG I post with a place holder pic first so you actually have to swipe across to see them, then people can choose to look or not. I have my manager on social media and he isn’t bothered at all.’
Another said: ‘I’ve seen a few friends do this and the response has always been overwhelmingly positive in a ‘you go, girl!’ kind of way. If you feel good in them then go for it! Personally if I see pics like this I think its brill.
‘I put a bikini pic on once and the response from my female friends was great and I was glad I’d posted it!’
Some people said it’s powerful to share the racy snaps and others revealed they also share lingerie pics online
However others thought posting the pictures would be ‘tasteless’, ‘tacky’ and ‘cringe’.
One person wrote: ‘It’s tacky and tasteless and if I had a friend share pics like that I’d be silently criticising and eye rolling behind my screen wondering WTF is wrong with you and assuming your confidence must be so low that you felt the need to share them so you could feel validated by other people’s comments.’
Another said: ‘Cringe. Low self esteem, screams needing validation.
‘One negative comment and your new found fragile confidence would be shattered in an instant and it’s the only comment that you’ll pay attention to. Guaranteed.
‘What’s empowering about subjecting yourself to the gaze? Changing the discourse about females and their bodies doesn’t mean posting burlesque style pics on a saturated social media platform of vanity.’
Someone else wrote: ‘I’ve seen this done and tbh it does come across as attention seeking and it’s a bit cringey.
However other users thought posting the lingerie pictures would be ‘tasteless’, ‘tacky’ and ‘cringe’
‘If you know you look great why do you need anyone else to see them? It means you’re getting your validation from other people which isn’t healthy.’
Others made the point that posting lingerie snaps online aren’t ’empowering’ or helping with her self-esteem as she is only ‘seeking external validation and approval.’
One person wrote: ‘I think that it’s fantastic that you feel happy with your photos. What I would question is how sharing lingerie photos is any more ’empowering’ than what you’ve already done, and why.
‘I’ve taken burlesque, pole and striptease classes and I’ve never shared the photos or videos from them online.
‘To my mind, once you start posting those things publicly as part of the process of developing confidence you then actively seek external validation / approval etc from others.
‘You look great and feel great, but why do you feel it would increase your esteem further to get others to feed back on that with comments?
Others made the point that posting lingerie snaps online aren’t ’empowering’ or helping with her self-esteem as she is only ‘seeking external validation and approval’
‘I genuinely think that our happiest, most confident selves are the ones that genuinely don’t give two hoots if other people are impressed, approve, sneer or laugh. So, I’d resist the temptation.
‘Once they are posted, you can’t undo it, Or, just use a head shot as a profile picture and turn comments off.’
While another agreed saying: ‘I would think more ‘female empowerment’ if you posted a no make up scruffy photo with you sticking your middle finger up. I don’t see how confirming to ‘women need to be sexy’ empowers anything apart from your own ego sorry OP.’
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