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Simple quiz that determines how connected your family is

If you’re struggling to connect with your children, you’re not alone.

Although two thirds of British parents say they’d like to spend more quality time as a family, new research reveals that they’re missing out on up to a full week each year – because they spend it resolving domestic dramas.

On the back of the new research, psychologist and family expert Corinne Sweet has created a simple quiz for parents to assess how connected they are to their family – and shares her advice on how to improve it.

Answer the below questions, making a note of your answer, and check the pink boxes at the bottom to assess how connected you are to your children. 

Psychologist and family expert Corinne Sweet has created a simple quiz for parents to assess how connected they are to their family

1. Do you ever have days where you feel like you don’t spend any real quality time together?

a. Yes, often

b. Yes, sometimes

c. No, never or hardly ever

2. Do your children ever comment that you don’t spend enough quality time together?

a. Yes, often

b. Yes, sometimes

c. No, never or hardly ever

3. How long do you spend resolving a domestic drama (such as splitting up fighting children, or tantrums when the TV goes off) each day?

a. Less than half an hour

b. Around an hour

c. More than an hour

4. How many times do you have to ask your child to do something (like teeth brushing or coming to the table) a day?

a. Once or twice

b. Three to four times

c. Five or more times

5. Do you ever find yourself resorting to bribery to get your kids to do things?

a. Yes, all the time

b. Yes, sometimes

c. No, never or hardly ever

6. How often do you eat at the table with the whole family present?

a. We try to eat together once a day

b. It varies, but about two to four times a week

c. We struggle, possibly once a week, sometimes not

7. How often does dinner time end early due to a temper tantrum or someone storming off?

a. Once a week

b. Two to three times a week

c. Four times a week or more


Mostly As

You are a family that values time together, and you are generally able to prevent or resolve domestic dramas fairly quickly. You’re children are likely used to routine and you hardly have to ask them twice to do something around the house.

You likely have an armoury of tips and tricks up your sleeve whether it’s resolving disputes between children or getting your partner to put the mobile down at the dinner table.

What to look out for: When routines are disrupted, like on school holidays, dramas can creep into family life. Try keeping a regular structure and routine to family like.

Mostly Bs

You are a family that enjoys being together, and recognise that the occasional drama is just part of family life. Like a fifth of parents, you may spend 30 to 45 minutes getting your children ready to go to school.

When things become chaotic, rules and routine can go out the window – and you may end up asking your children repeatedly to do the things expected of them (like homework, or teeth brushing).

What to look out for: Reinforce positive behaviour with recognition and praise and try not to become too flustered when dramas do break out.

Mostly Cs

You may find it hard to set rules at around the house, with tantrums frequently erupting at regular times – like when it comes to doing homework or going to bed.

Like a fifth of parents, you might even be willing to give up £200 for a stress-free week of family time.

What to look out for: Avoid bribing children in order to get the desired outcome, instead turn daily activities, like dinner, into a game or challenge – for instance use an egg timer and anyone who sits down at the table after the ‘ding’ must.

The research, which was commissioned by Dolmio to support the ‘No drama’ campaign and TVC, suggests that it’s often what’s on the menu that causes drama and cuts dinner short; children’s avoidance of vegetables was the number one dinner disruptor, followed by refusal to eat what’s been prepared. 

Nearly a fifth of parents also reported children demanding a different meal or asking for dessert before eating their dinner (16 per cent).

So how do we get the family around the table to try a new dinner, without it ending up in the bin or spawning a domestic drama?

Parents use all kinds of tips and tricks to coax their children into eating their dinners, but the promise of pudding is by far the most commonly used. The second most popular bribe is the promise of tech access, as nearly a quarter admit to offering more TV, tablet or phone time as a way of making their children eat.

Corinne Sweet highlights that whilst it’s tempting to appease children with a dessert or television, the focus should be on creating a fun, family atmosphere that everyone can get involved with.

She concluded: ‘Try involving children in meal planning, deciding together what you will eat as a family and then getting involved with the preparation and a bit of cooking. 

Not only will this encourage healthy eating habits for the future, but when children feel involved in decision making they are less likely to throw a tantrum or waste food. 

Fun dinner time games can be a good way to start the meal off on a positive note, for instance: ‘High, low, and haha’ – where everyone shares the peak, the low and the funniest moment of their day.’