We all know that being self-confident is good for you and some of us truly need to improve in that area. However, this is easier said than done. Every day, we spend time with people of different character and personality and we notice some of them have extremely high self-esteem. How do they manage? It’s a real mystery for us folks that need a bit of encouragement to steer us in the right direction. Unfortunately, we can’t always get outer inspiration and motivation, we need to learn to give ourselves the push and that stems from having regular levels of self-confidence. Boosting it seems extremely artificial and even unbelievable to some people, but it actually does work. Let’s see how.
Look in the mirror
This is both a metaphor and a literal imperative. It may seem silly, but looking ourselves in the mirror enables us to observe ourselves somewhat objectively as a human being. Take a look at the person in front of you. This is a person who is strong, smart, independent and has many other qualities. Think about this person’s life and the challenges they encountered and successfully surpassed. This person is brave and beautiful inside and out and deserves love. However, in order to be loved by others, one must love themselves first. Love yourself and know you’re worthy. Looking in the mirror makes it easier for you to observe yourself. Be objective and you’ll learn how much credit you actually deserve.
Like yourself
Looks don’t matter as much as whether you’re a good person or not. Surely, what’s inside counts much more, but aesthetics also have a certain role, especially in one’s self-esteem. If you’re unsatisfied with the way you look and you can change it for the better, make an effort and do so for your own sake. Aesthetics are the least important aspect here. What matters most is that you like the way you look. Your confidence partly comes from your own perception of your physical appearance. So, if you need to lose some weight, exercise or if you would like to have cosmetic surgery such as breast implants, rhinoplasty or subtle otoplasty, you should do it. All that matters is that you’ll be much more satisfied once it’s done and nothing will stop you from being confident now.
Baby steps
Low self-esteem is tightly bound to insecurities and fear of failure. One of the essential things each of us needs to do to increase their confidence is to leave our comfort zone. The comfort zone is one tricky concept as it happens gradually and we don’t even notice that everything in our life is familiar and safe and we no longer take risks. Once you notice this, it’s time to change it. You can even give yourself tasks to do something new every day or every week, for starters. It’s important to start small and give yourself simple but new challenges. Completing each of them will mean many tiny wins and over time, these wins will turn into a confidence boost.
Self-care
Taking care of yourself doesn’t just mean handling your existential needs. On the contrary, it means taking care of your soul and your wellbeing. You need to learn to put yourself first. Every time someone asks you to do something or be somewhere, feel free to say no if you don’t feel like doing it. Of course, this doesn’t mean you should be selfish or rude, but to simply learn that declining an invitation or two for a couple of hours of quality alone time is not a sin, but a personal necessity.
There is no pill one can take to boost their confidence. It’s a long process that requires constant effort and will, but it definitely is something everyone can do. So, try to put some of these ideas into action and you’ll definitely see a positive change over time.