The ‘middle-class kinks’ saving marriages: Wives reveal the eight buzzy sex trends that revived their lagging libidos – including the fantasy husbands are secretly obsessed with

Recently, I’ve had an extra pep in my step. I feel like I’m glowing on the inside, I’m making smarter decisions, I’m going about my day with a smile on my dial.

Why? Because I upped my bedroom game and it’s really paid off in every other area of my life.

And really it only took a few minor tweaks to turn things around.

I’ll save all the juicy details for another day, but let’s just say I found my kink and am now enjoying it regularly.

It got me thinking about my married friends who once had the steamiest relationships, but after kids, stressful jobs and mortgages, they hit a bedroom slump. 

Maybe the spark fizzled or they fell into the ‘quickie-and-sleep’ routine. I know lots of my girlfriends fear they’ll never get that va-va-voom back.

But worry not, because this week I asked readers to share ‘the kink that saved your sex life’ – and their replies did not disappoint.

From outdoor antics to the magical C-word that’s igniting bedrooms, my followers took their sex lives from ‘meh’ to ‘oh yeah!’ – and you can too.

Jana Hocking asked married couples to reveal the kinks that saved their sex lives

‘A cheeky finger changed everything’ 

A bit of experimentation awoke a fire in one woman’s husband… as she explains:

‘I discovered my husband’s G-spot was up his butt and it changed everything, honestly,’ she revealed.

‘One cheeky finger and suddenly I’m a sex goddess, and he’s having the most intense orgasms of his life!

‘He used to be shy about it, now he practically begs for it. Plus I really get off on hearing him moan.’

‘We bought a spa’ 

One wife gave in to her husband’s request to get a backyard spa – and what was supposed to be a way to wind down soon turned into something else entirely. 

‘He’s been wanting a Jacuzzi for the garden for years. After our kids moved out and we had a financially successful year, we finally decided to treat ourselves. 

‘Some people spend a fortune on couples therapy, but it took $7,000 plus installation to fix ours. Best money we’ve ever spent.’ (Stock image posed by models)

‘We told the neighbours it was for relaxing after work – and it is. But we’ve also found it’s a great place for hot sex under the cover of bubbles. 

‘Now every Friday after work, I fill it up, light some candles, open a bottle of wine, and before you know it, we’re having sex like like we did in our twenties.

‘For the first time in decades, my husband is coming straight home from work on a Friday to spend time with me because he knows he’ll get lucky. 

‘Some people spend a fortune on therapy, but it took $7,000 (plus installation) to fix our sex life. Best money we’ve ever spent.’

‘Forget the hype and try tantric sex’ 

Tantric sex. Look, I know what you’re thinking. Sting and his wife having 10-hour-long orgasms while listening to pan flute music in the background…

But no! It doesn’t have to be like that. Just listen to what one of my readers said: 

‘After one too many nights on the couch watching old episodes of Grey’s Anatomy, I decided it was time I focused more on my own sexual well-being,’ she told me. 

‘I bought books, binged YouTube tutorials, attended workshops and went deep into exploring tantric sex.

‘Within a few weeks, sex went from occasional fun to an out-of-body experience. 

‘Throw in a few good Tinder dates, plus some quality toys and I’m now having full-body orgasms that last minutes. Minutes!

‘I regret the years I wasted in a vanilla marriage, but I’m making up for it now.’

‘We roleplay that we’re with our exes’ 

One wife told me that confessing her fantasies about a certain ex-lover didn’t make her husband jealous… instead it turbo-charged their sex life.

‘One night, after a few too many wines, I was talking dirty to my husband and it turns out we both liked talking about sex with our exes,’ she said.

‘You’d think it would be the ultimate no-no. But instead of killing the mood, it turned us both on. 

‘Now we regularly roleplay that we’re sneaking around with our exes.

‘Look, we don’t actually want to get back with our exes (at least I don’t) but it’s harmless fun that brings the thrill of an affair into our otherwise ordinary married sex life. Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it.’

‘I’m a good girl’ 

Everyone loves a bit of positive feedback, but one woman recently discovered she had a particular kink for being praised in the bedroom.

‘When I was younger I used to really get off on being called a “good girl”. A guy said it to me once and even though the sex that followed wasn’t great, I thought about those two words for years afterwards,’ she said.

‘I brought it up with my husband when we first started dating and it’s always been a reliable way to spice things up over the years.’

But that’s not the end of the story.

‘Of course, I’m not always a good girl. Sometimes, I like to be called a “bad girl”. It’s hard to explain but your husband whispering “you’re such a slut” into your ear can be very sexy and oddly romantic.’

One wife told Jana she loves being dominated and being called a ‘good girl’ (stock image)

‘We tried the two middle-class sex crazes’ 

When we talk about ‘middle-class kinks’, there’s two that top the list.

The first is pegging. Then, cuckolding (yes, that magical C-word I mentioned earlier that it seems all men are obsessed with at the moment.)

One experimental wife tells me she and her husband decided to try both in the span of six months – and said the results were mind-blowing.

‘My husband asked to try pegging. Honestly, I was hesitant to give it a go. The idea seemed too out-there and I didn’t’ think I’d be able to take it seriously,’ she said.

‘But one night after – you guessed it, a few too many wines – I agreed to give it a go. 

‘After some fumbling, and plenty of awkward giggling, we finally got in our groove and do it at least once a month. Sometimes to get him in the mood, I’ll send him a picture of the strap-on in the middle of his working day. Does this trick every time.’

Well, it turns out that wasn’t the end of this kinky couple’s journey. The wife explains that pegging opened them up to talk of other fantasies.

‘We’d just had sex and were lying in bed together when my husband confessed he was turned on by the idea of watching me with someone else,’ she said.

‘It took a lot of discussion and boundary-setting before we decided to give it a go. We hired a male escort and he came over and had sex with me while hubby watched.

‘I never thought I would be into it, but I actually loved being my husband’s own personal porn star. The sex we have afterwards is amazing and seeing me with another man makes him super competitive.‘

One couple reignited their sex life by going to a wine bar for swingers (stock image)

‘Threesomes, foursomes, moresomes – yes please!’ 

One wife was surprised to discover her very respectable friends were actually swingers who regularly patronised a ‘wine bar’ for open-minded couples.

While out for drinks one night, she and her husband were feeling a little brave and decided to ‘pop our heads in’.

And, you guessed it, they weren’t exactly wallflowers.

‘We just threw ourselves in head-first. Turns out it took us six years of marriage to realise we are born swingers,’ the woman explained. 

‘Since that first visit, we’ve had threesomes, foursomes, moresomes, and it’s actually brought us closer. We trust each other more, and our communication has never been better. Plus, it’s really fun.’

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