These are the five reasons I left Sydney for good after four years: ‘Impossible, ridiculous, combative’

A young woman has revealed why she left Sydney and doesn’t plan on ever moving back.

Llani Belle, originally from Adelaide, moved to Sydney’s eastern suburbs in 2019 for a job but soon realised the NSW capital wasn’t everything she had hoped for.

After years of frustration, Llani finally decided to relocate to the Gold Coast, though she occasionally commutes to Sydney for her job.

‘I’d rather fly back and forth than live there full-time,’ she told FEMAIL. ‘Sydney has become so busy and expensive – every single day is just combative.

‘The prices have increased so much over the past two years – no matter how much money I was making, I could never get ahead.’

Llani Belle, originally from Adelaide, moved to Sydney’s eastern suburbs in 2019

Llani also revealed that saving for her future and a house deposit had become ‘impossible’.

‘The fast-paced nature of the city is really hard to live with, everyone’s in a bit of a rush to get everywhere.

‘I understand the attraction – I had great opportunities, it’s a very fun and ambient place. But the Gold Coast is now my home.’

Llani listed five main reasons she moved out of Sydney.

‘I cannot afford the lifestyle that I like to live in Sydney,’ she said.

‘The apartment that I am in right now [in the Gold Coast] would be three times as much. The rental market and the cost of living are just so ridiculous.’

She noted that while she didn’t have to live in the eastern suburbs, she wouldn’t have moved from South Australia if she couldn’t live near the beach. 

2. Fast-paced lifestyle 

‘I am a small-town girl born and bred, so doing anything in Sydney just made me irritated, frustrated, and fatigued,’ Llani said. 

‘For example, if I forgot something I needed from the shops, I’d have to walk to my car that I parked on a side street, because my apartment – which I paid a ridiculous amount of money for – didn’t have carparks,’ she said.

‘Then after that, I’d have to drive into a multi-level carpark and then pay on average, 15 per cent more than the average shop because of the area I lived in.’

3. Exhausting social events

Llani said that she was a homebody and no one in Sydney wants to stay home.

‘Which I get, why would you want to stay in your apartment when at your doorstep are some of the best restaurants in the country? But I want to have movie nights at home in my sweats.’

Making plans with people was also ‘nearly impossible’. 

‘I’m the worst planner, I hate committing to plans. Everyone in Sydney packs up their social calendar so much.

‘You run into a friend you love so dearly, but you pull out your calendars to figure out when you can catch up and it’ll be four Saturdays later.’

She preferred spontaneous hangouts instead and didn’t want to meticulously plan every second of her life.

4. Too many social climbers 

Llani soon became fatigued by the sheer amount of opportunistic people in Sydney.

‘People wouldn’t meet you and say, ‘Wow, who are you and what are your values?’

‘Instead, it would be about what can they get from you, whether that be something monetary, career progression, or social status.

‘I used to be a really open, giving person, and Sydney hardened me a lot because a lot of people used me to get other places.’

She was also sick of how everyone ‘tried really hard to act like they’re not trying at all’ and explained that people regularly ‘looked down on’ her and told her she was ‘a lot’ because of her unrestrained passion for life.

Llani soon became fatigued by the sheer amount of opportunistic people in Sydney

Llani soon became fatigued by the sheer amount of opportunistic people in Sydney

5. Dating culture

‘The dating scene there is the land of Peter Pans,’ she joked. ‘You have 40-year-old men saying they don’t want to settle down yet.’

‘Hun, you’re bald,’ she told them. ‘Settle down and have a family.’ 

Llani also revealed that she had never heard more stories about people cheating and it being more socially acceptable than in Sydney.

‘There were there were just so many things that morally contradicted my values,’ she said.

Many agreed with her assessment.

‘Accurate! I currently have an opportunity to leave Sydney and I’m hoping it comes together so I can get the heck out,’ one said.

‘Girl, you listed all the reasons I left for Melbourne,’ another added. ‘Everyone’s out for themselves and steps on someone else to get ahead. Got disgusted and drained by every person I met physically mentally and financially.’

‘I’ve been living in Sydney my whole life and I still don’t vibe with it,’ a woman said.