A video of a three-year-old using a ‘gentle parenting’ technique on his baby brother has melted the hearts of TikTok users, who have watched it nearly 15 million times.
Mom Laura Love prides herself on using ‘respectful parenting,’ according to her TikTok bio, and the calm, sweet way of talking to her kids has clearly rubbed off on them.
She recently posted a video of her 20-month-old son Jonah pestering her three-year-old son Carter, trying to to take the toys he’s using and poking him in the face.
But still just a toddler himself, little Carter has nothing but patience for his little brother, kindly encouraging him to wait his turn even though ‘it’s hard to wait sometimes’ and asking him to be ‘gentle, please’ while touching him.
A video of a three-year-old using a ‘gentle parenting’ technique on his baby brother has melted the hearts of TikTok users, who have watched it nearly 15 million times
![Mom Laura Love shared the video of her 20-month-old son Jonah pestering her three-year-old son Carter, trying to to take the toys he's using and poking him in the face](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/10/21/19/49479499-10117349-image-a-298_1634841037238.jpg)
![Mom Laura Love shared the video of her 20-month-old son Jonah pestering her three-year-old son Carter, trying to to take the toys he's using and poking him in the face](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/10/21/19/49477803-10117349-image-a-297_1634841035516.jpg)
Mom Laura Love shared the video of her 20-month-old son Jonah pestering her three-year-old son Carter, trying to to take the toys he’s using and poking him in the face
![](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/10/21/19/49477799-10117349-image-a-296_1634841032638.jpg)
The video, which has earned 3.6 million views since it was posted on October 5, shows Carter sitting in a cartboard box with a picture book and a pen.
It seems that Jonah would like to play with either the book or the box, and he is standing behind Carter, tugging and pestering him.
Instead of snapping, whining, or yelling ‘mine!’, Jonah handles his little brother like a zen master.
‘I know you want a turn, but now it’s my turn,’ he tells him very gently.
‘You can have a turn when I’m done,’ he adds encouragingly.
Incredibly understanding, he adds sympathetically: ‘I know it’s hard to wait sometimes.’
![Instead of snapping, whining, or yelling 'mine!', Jonah handles his little brother like a zen master](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/10/21/19/49479515-10117349-Instead_of_snapping_whining_or_yelling_mine_Jonah_handles_his_li-a-312_1634841228341.jpg)
Instead of snapping, whining, or yelling ‘mine!’, Jonah handles his little brother like a zen master
!['Gentle, please,' he tells Jonah as he pokes his finger in Carter's eye](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/10/21/19/49479513-10117349-image-a-308_1634841104631.jpg)
!['Gentle, please,' he tells Jonah as he pokes his finger in Carter's eye](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/10/21/19/49477795-10117349-image-m-307_1634841100051.jpg)
‘Gentle, please,’ he tells Jonah as he pokes his finger in Carter’s eye
![Even as Jonah continues to touch him, Carter keeps calm and sweet, telling his little brother: 'That's my body and I said no. I don't like being poked'](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/10/21/19/49479517-10117349-image-a-313_1634841231779.jpg)
Even as Jonah continues to touch him, Carter keeps calm and sweet, telling his little brother: ‘That’s my body and I said no. I don’t like being poked’
![Finally, Jonah seems to get the message, and leans in to hug Jonah warmly around the head](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/10/21/19/49479519-10117349-image-a-314_1634841233432.jpg)
Finally, Jonah seems to get the message, and leans in to hug Jonah warmly around the head
At this point, Jonah reaches out and puts his whole hand on Carter’s face and begins poking him — but even then, the very patient big brother has kind words.
‘Gentle, please,’ he tells Jonah as he pokes his finger in Carter’s eye.
Even as Jonah continues to touch him, Carter keeps calm and sweet, telling his little brother: ‘That’s my body and I said no. I don’t like being poked.’
Finally, Jonah seems to get the message, and leans in to hug Jonah warmly around the head.
‘I like that,’ Jonah tells him.
And just in case Jonah didn’t quite get the message, the boys’ mom reiterates it gently at the end of the video.
‘That was not nice to poke his eye. We don’t poke people, OK?’ she says.
![Laura was clearly quite proud, captioning the video: 'BRB... just going to go cry. They soak in everything!'](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/10/21/19/49477829-10117349-image-a-302_1634841060898.jpg)
Laura was clearly quite proud, captioning the video: ‘BRB… just going to go cry. They soak in everything!’
![Laura also noted in the comments that she didn't intervene because 'this builds problem-solving skills'](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/10/21/19/49477841-10117349-image-a-303_1634841062785.jpg)
Laura also noted in the comments that she didn’t intervene because ‘this builds problem-solving skills’
Laura was clearly quite proud, captioning the video: ‘BRB… just going to go cry. They soak in everything!’
Laura also noted in the comments that she didn’t intervene because ‘this builds problem-solving skills.’
Meanwhile, commenters have praised her for raising a child who can communicate so well and so respectfully.
Many were especially impressed that she is teaching her children to protect their bodily autonomy.
‘”That’s by mody and I said NO!” That is so powerful, good job mom,’ wrote one, while another wrote: ‘Someone award this woman Parent of the Year.’
‘As an elementary teacher, thank you for teaching empathy in your home,’ wrote one more. ‘This makes postitive social/emotional interactions happen naturally in school.’