Wedding planner slams entitled guest who wrote a lengthy list of food preferences on an RSVP card

A wedding planner has shared examples of two major no-nos for RSVPing to a wedding, including a guest who included a very detailed description of food preferences including ‘dislike red pepper’ and ‘dressing on side with salad.’

Melissa Baum, a Toronto-based wedding planner, shares a lot of wedding tips on TikTok — but most are for the bride and groom.

Yet in once recent two-part series, she spotlighted two serious ‘don’ts’ when it comes to filling out an RSVP part, sharing photos of the rude and tacky messages written by attendees.

While one asked not to be seated next to any children, another wrote a six-point list of foods she didn’t like and ways she would like her meal to be prepared.

Melissa Baum, a Toronto-based wedding planner, shares a lot of wedding tips on TikTok

‘What not to do on your RSVP card,’ Baum titled the series.

In the more widely-viewed of two videos, she shows an RSVP card for one of her clients, from guests named Barbara and Jonathan Packer. 

The couple checked that they accept the invitation, and checked a line indicated that they require vegetarian meals.

But that’s not the only thing they require from their food, even though the kitchen staff at a wedding is likely preparing meals for dozens if not hundreds of people.

Barbara and Jonathan added several of their own bullet points indicating not dietary restrictions, but taste preferences they expected to be taken into account when making their food.

‘No iceberg lettuce,’ it read. ‘No nuts or beans. Dislike red pepper. Not spicy. Dressing on side with salad. Sensitive to garlic.’

Commenters are horrified by the demanding RSVP card, arguing that it’s unacceptable to make demands or requests beyond accommodating an allergy

Commenters are horrified by the demanding RSVP card, arguing that it’s unacceptable to make demands or requests beyond accommodating an allergy. 

‘I mean food allergies sure, please absolutely list that. What you like/don’t like? Yeah no,’ wrote one.

‘They clearly have never been to a wedding before,’ wrote another. 

Some said they’d uninvite the couple, while others said they would purposefully serve them something that ignores all of those preferences.

Others said they’d go the malicious compliance route, with one writing: ‘Due to your severe allergies, and our concern for your safety, we request you to bring your own meal.’ 

‘OK Barbara feel free to bring your own food,’ wrote another. 

‘Minute rice. They get a plastic bowl of minute rice,’ wrote one more.

Baum shared another RSVP card that appeared to say the couple didn’t want to sit next to children – though some commenters say it was probably a joke about cannibalism

In another video, Baum shared an RSVP card from someone’s uncle Tim and aunt Becky, who added a sweet drawing of Snoopy next to the line where they indicated their acceptance.

But though the couple appears to like children’s cartoons, they do not seem to be fans of actual children.

On a line for dietary restrictions, they asked instead for special seating arrangements.

‘Would prefer not to be seated near anyone who chose “child” under the menu preference,” they wrote with an arrow, indicating more words on the back — though Baum left the rest as a mystery.

‘The seating planning is stressful as it is!’ wrote Baum.

However, some commenters offered a more charitable explanation, guessing that uncle Tim or aunt Becky meant it as a joke.

‘No wait!’ wrote one. ‘Isn’t this a joke? Like when the menu is “beef, chicken, or child,” as in you’d want a kids’ meal, but it sounds like you chose a child AS [the] meal.’

‘I genuinely feel it’s a joke about the card format,’ wrote another. ‘They don’t want to be seated next to cannibals.