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What is new millennial dating trend soft-ghosting?

Pocketing: According to Eugénie Legendre, a representative for dating app Happn, this term refers to a person who never introduces you to their friends and family.

While you might see the person on a regular basis, your interactions tend not to be in public, meaning you’ve been ‘pocketed’.

‘If you aren’t being introduced to his or her friends and family within months of spending time together, then it might be time to open your eyes because you have been pocketed,’ Mr Legendre previously told Yahoo Style.  

Cookie jarring: This term refers to the practice of putting a suitor in a reserve position while you’re dating someone else.

It’s disingenuous in so far as the person you have designated as your back-up option is unlikely to know this.

While it might seem safer to keep your options open, Mr Legendre said its always better to allow yourself time to get to know another, without the influence of others.

Prowling: Prowling describes behaviour that see a person running hot and cold, before they disappear entirely.

However, they will of course resurface but only once you’ve given up.

Mr Legendre explained this kind of ‘toying’ behaviour will play with your emotions, and the prowler is always ‘more hassle and hurt’ than they are worth.   

OrbitingIn modern dating parlance, the act of orbiting is one where a person still engages with you – despite the fact you’re no longer an item.

Potentially they will interact with you on social media, perhaps in the form of likes or comments.

In essence, they are out of your life but still have some presence in that they ‘orbit’ your social sphere.  

Kitten-fishingThere’s nothing wrong with wanting to look your best when uploading a photo to your dating profile. 

But if you’re purposely using images of yourself as a younger person or lie about your age, weight, height or job then you’re ‘kitten-fishing’.

Speaking to Daily Mail Australia, dating expert Debbie Rivers from Dare2Date said: ‘This kind of dishonesty doesn’t ever bode well when people meet in real life.

‘The lying about age varies from a couple of years to ten years with many singles coming clean on the date where it is often too late as their date feels lied to.’

Ghosting: The term ‘ghosting’, which was coined in 2014, is when someone suddenly vanishes into thin air to avoid the awkward break-up conversation.

Zombie-ing: This is when a person who ghosted their date suddenly reappears and acts like nothing has happened and continue where they left off.

Benching: This is when daters are not ‘into’ someone enough to commit but they want to keep them on the side lines as an option.

Bread-crumbing: This is when somebody gives people just enough attention to keep someone around and keep the hope of a relationship alive.

Cushioning: ‘Cushioning’ is the dating move that sees people that are in a relationship flirt and chat with other people on the side.

Catfishing: This happens when someone pretends to be someone they are not on online dating or social media, with the intent to scam.


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