When is the right time to spend Christmas together? Relationship expert says you should wait YEARS

It’s the question that can cause friction in even the most harmonious of relationships: are we spending Christmas with your family or mine?

Although there’s no ‘one-size-fits-all’ answer to this question, there’s one thing relationship expert Charlotte Johnson knows for sure – and that’s couples shouldn’t rush into this all-important step. 

With just a few days to go until Christmas day, Charlotte said it’s safer to wait until you’re at least a few years into your relationship before taking the plunge.

Speaking to FEMAIL, the expert at Mega Pleasure said you can’t underestimate the significance of bringing a new partner into your family celebration.

She said: ‘Many families across the world share Christmas and intimate gatherings with their partners to show commitment and gratitude to this person. 

‘It is also a very warm and loving sense of emotion to be able to share your relationship with your family members too.

‘Depending on family dynamic and how certain families prefer to spend the festive period, it may be best to wait a few years if you feel this is best for everyone and their well-being.’

However if you’re really desperate to spend the special day with your new partner, the expert said you should be at least past the six month mark.

At a minimum, couples should be together for six months before spending Christmas together

She added: ‘This is because six months is suggested to be a rough guide of time to allow you to both get to know each other on a deeper level and understand each other’s values.’

There are inevitably going to be several factors to consider when it comes to deciding whose family to spend Christmas with.

That said, Charlotte says taking an alternative year approach will prevent anyone from feeling shortchanged.

She continued: ‘Communication is key in this respect to determine how both parties feel about spending Christmas with their own families. Some relationships can include a long trip and therefore splitting time within the same day can be very difficult and sometimes unreasonable, in this case it would be best to both alternate years to spend time with both families. 

‘On the other hand, if you potentially have children together, or even if your families live close enough to share your time, it is a good idea to share the day with both families, this way both yourself and your partner can be fulfilled with their families and Christmas spirit.’

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