Why all my single friends refuse to date men over 50: It’s not just your moods and Viagra headaches – there’s some very specific sins driving us into the arms of toyboys: AMANDA GOFF

They’re the words that send a shiver down the spine of every woman who’s single and over 45: date a man your age and you’ll end up either as a ‘nurse or a purse’.

Brutal? Maybe. But ask any divorced mid-life woman dipping her shellac toes back into the dating pool and she will tell you honestly – and with experience to back her up – that too many men in their 50s, 60s and older are either falling apart physically, financially or emotionally.

We’ve raised our children, built our careers, survived marriage (and divorce) and now we just want good sex and light-hearted fun with a man that doesn’t need reminding to have his colonoscopy.

We do not want to ‘lend’ him funding for his ‘never-been-done-before start-up’ or listen to him complain about his hernia during a Viagra-induced fumble.

We don’t want to plan cruises. We want wild sex, spontaneity and men who know when it’s time to go back to their place before it gets too late…

Before I’m attacked by a baying crowd crying ‘not all men!’ – they are absolutely right. They’re some great men out there, of all ages. I am no man-basher; I love men.

Plenty of DILFs are fit, healthy, successful and happy. The problem is, they’re quite often the married ones.

And for the single ones? There are some diamonds in the rough, for sure, but these days they seem to be vanishingly rare. 

When Amanda Goff ran an escort agency, an older woman ‘Mrs Robinson’ was one of her busiest ladies

So what’s a mature woman to do? The answer is to embrace your inner cougar and find yourself a cub. And there are plenty out there. 

I’m going to tell you a little secret: when I ran an escort agency in a former life, older women were so in demand that I mostly employed women over 40. 

In fact, one of my busiest ladies, ‘Mrs Robinson’, was 65. It was during that colourful period that I realised older women and younger men are an electric combination.

Some of Sydney’s most gorgeous MILFs are ditching those so-called silver foxes for men with fewer ex-wives and a lot more energy.

When she was 48, radio queen Jackie ‘O’ Henderson was linked to 29-year-old model and tradesman (could there be a more delicious combo?) Jack Tyerman.

Then there’s my favourite clothes horse and artist Dina Broadhurst, 48, who had a Parisian fling with 23-year-old Belgian model Kengi Meert.

Home and Away wild child Kate Ritchie, 45, is known to prefer younger men. And about a decade ago, Jodhi Meares, then 45, married 29-year-old Nicholas Tsindos.

Sure, those relationships didn’t last – but were they ever meant to? Mature women don’t want anything too heavy. We’ve done the joint bank accounts, couples therapy and years of ‘what’s for dinner’. We just want to have fun. 

When she was 48, Jackie O dated 29-year-old model and tradie Jack Tyerman

Artist Dina Broadhurst, 48, dated 23-year-old model Belgian model Kengi Meert

With so many older women setting the bar high like Salma Hayek, 58, and Jennifer Lopez, 55 – our time is now and here’s why we make no apologies for dating younger.

1. No baggage

No woman likes bitterness. They don’t want to hear why your ex-wife did you wrong, or how mad/crazy she is, or how much money she got in the divorce. 

Nor do we want to hear about your custody battle, and older women definitely don’t want to babysit your young kids, having just packed ours off to university. 

Younger men are less cynical, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, and life hasn’t chewed them up and spat them out yet…

2. Stamina

Let’s call a spade a spade. It’s a biological fact that younger men are more virile and have more energy. They don’t need a nap or a little blue pill to perk things up. 

While older women hit their sexual peak, younger men are ready, willing and raring to go. It’s a sexual match made in heaven.

3. Modern love

Younger men have been raised in a world where therapy isn’t taboo, emotion isn’t weakness and men are allowed to cry. They’re more open-minded and less judgmental. 

For us Gen Xers who have put up with decades of outdated gender roles, I’ve must admit it’s refreshing and sexy. While I’m old-fashioned at heart, I also like a man who isn’t rigid in their outlook.

Jodhi Meares, then 45, married 29-year-old photographer Nicholas Finn Tsindos

4. You’re his fantasy

There’s a reason why MILF porn constantly tops the charts. Younger men worship older woman.

We are confident, experienced, financially independent and – I hear from younger men all the time – they like that we don’t play games. 

We know what we want and we’re not afraid to ask for it. I know plenty of women who tell me they would never live with a man again or get into a serious relationship.

Instead, we’re happy to get old with our friends, children and pets… and have a little fun on the side.

5. And finally… why the hell not?

Men have been dating younger women forever and no one bats an eyelid.

Leonardo DiCaprio doesn’t date anyone born before 2000, and he gets high fives. But when women do it, we are ‘sad’, ‘desperate’ or ‘predatory,’ ‘being used’ or treated like a joke. 

Why is it so controversial now that the tables have turned?

We are just doing what men have done since day dot: chasing pleasure, youth and excitement. We don’t want to settle – Cyndi Lauper got it right years ago… girls just wanna have fun…

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