Wife disgusted by having sex with her husband debates whether to let him sleep with a sex worker

A woman is torn between allowing her husband to sleep with a sex worker or demanding celibacy after her plummeting libido caused tensions within her marriage.

After anonymously reaching out to Australian mummy blogger Constance Hall, the woman pleaded for help with her ‘unique’ situation.

She revealed that her sex drive dramatically decreased after giving birth to their children but her husband still wants to remain sexually active.

The husband recently suggested ‘opening up’ the marriage or looking for a sex worker in order to satisfy his needs.

The woman admitted to feeling ‘physically sick’ at the thought of her husband being intimate with another person but was not sure if she was being selfish.

‘I don’t feel like sleeping with my husband,’ the woman revealed in a post. ‘I still find him attractive, and I love him very much, but since [having] kids I haven’t felt like sex very often.’

The woman has only desired sexual intimacy ‘a few times a year’ in the last five years.

She claimed that her husband has been ‘very patient’ and explored several different tactics to help heighten her sex drive to no avail.

‘There really isn’t anything he can do because it’s not about him, I just don’t feel like it,’ she said. ‘I don’t even masturbate and I’m okay with that.’

The mum then shed more light on their conversation about extra-marital intercourse.

‘Last week, he suggested a sex worker or sex outside of the marriage to help him have his needs met and the thought made me physically sick.’ 

‘It did in fact make me want to sleep with him again, but I know that my sex drive was driven by the thought of him being with another woman and it will go back into hibernation soon.’

The woman wondered if she was being selfish, and whether she should simply give her husband the green light even though it would break her heart. 

‘I am trying to do the right thing by both of us but I am very confused about what that is,’ she said.

The husband recently suggested ‘opening up’ the marriage or looking for a sex worker in order to satisfy his needs

Many were against letting her husband pursue extra-marital intercourse.

‘You’ve already answered your own question – you feel physically sick at the thought and it would break your heart.’

‘Please don’t agree to something you’re not okay with to please someone else.’

‘Both of you have to be really comfortable with the concept otherwise it will come back to bite your relationship.’

‘I think your partner should be patient and accept you for where you are right now,’ another said. ‘It’s hard for him, just like in lots of ways it’s hard for you.’

‘Finding that elsewhere is scary because it can lead to other relationships/insecurities – and I would personally never be okay with it.’

Others were open to the idea of her husband looking for another partner.

‘I wouldn’t mind if it were me but I can see why other people would hate it.’

‘It’s understandable that your husband wants to continue having sex, and in my view, it’s not fair to expect him to shut off that side of himself.’