Trust is key to a successful marriage – but a woman says she has started doubting her long-term partner after discovering he’s got a secret Instagram account.
Posting on Mumsnet, she explained how she found out about his private account after seeing that he had been tagged in a photo.
The unnamed woman said that when she questioned her partner about it, he claimed that he created an account ‘ages ago’ and never uses it.
But with her suspicions aroused, she managed to log into the account – discovering that he was following a mother she ‘recognise[s] from the school run’, and that he was still active on the site.
A Mumsnet user explained how she has started doubting her long-term partner after finding out he has a secret Instagram account (file photo)
Other members of the parenting forum were divided about whether she should be suspicious, with some saying that her partner lying to her about never using Instagram should be considered a ‘red flag’.
Other members of the parenting forum agreed that she was right to be suspicious
Sharing her concerns on Mumsnet, the woman questioned: ‘Why is he saying he doesn’t use it when he does?’
She explained how her partner had followed several women, including another mother she’d seen in the school playground.
‘I remember him pointing her [i]n the playground a few weeks ago saying he used to be friends with her and she’s a really nice person,’ she added.
Some Mumsnet users said she was right to be suspicious, with one writing: ‘I would be keeping a close eye on it’.
Many questioned why he had lied to her about never using the social media app
One said the fact he was following other women but not his partner was a ‘red flag’
Others disagreed, and said that she should just follow him on Instagram to ease her concerns
Another commented ‘It’s a bit suspect that he’d denying using it’, while one added: ‘Doesn’t sound good to me. Sorry’.
Others suggested that she should just follow her partner on Instagram to ease her fears.
However, some hit out at the woman for ‘snooping’ on her other half, with one writing: ‘So you hacked into his account and snooped around. And somehow he is in the wrong?’
Meanwhile, others suggested that her partner’s actions were likely to be innocent.
One Mumsnet user wrote: ‘Does he really have to tell you when he opens a social media account? I don’t think you’ve got anything to worry about.’
Meanwhile, some criticised her for ‘snooping’ on her partner by logging into his account (file photo)
One mother suggested that she was ‘incredibly in the wrong’ – and said she would be furious if her husband had gone behind her back
Another advised the best way forward was for her to talk to him about her concerns
Others said that her partner’s actions sounded ‘very innocent’ and suggested she had nothing to worry about
Another Mumsnet user suggested that many people ‘snoop’ on their exes on social media as they are nosy, and said she ‘wouldn’t assume the worst’
MUMSNET USER’S POST IN FULL
My partner of 10 years has never had any form of social media. He says it’s a waste of time and pointless. The other day to my surprise I came across a photo on Instagram posted by a local business. Think along the lines of ‘Another happy customer’) and he was tagged in it so has his own profile.
I messaged him saying that I didn’t realise he was on Instagram and he said he created the account ‘ages’ ago and that he doesn’t use it at all. Fine. Whatever.
Now this is where I’ve been out of order…I’ve logged in to his profile. (Local business posted his username and I was able to guess his password.) No idea why I felt the need to snoop. I suppose because it’s out of character for him as he has previously been against social media. I just find the whole thing a bit odd.
He’s only posted 3 photos and they’re of his new car- fine. What’s weirding me out is that he’s followed a Mum that I recognise from the school run. She’s also followed him back and I remember him pointing her [i]n the playground a few weeks ago saying he used to be friends with her and she’s a really nice person. He’s also followed a few other women (I assume that he knows from before we met) and some men too (so not just women) but not me!? He knows I use it a lot. He’s set his profile to private too.
Also he said he created it ages [ago] and never uses it but it was actually only 3 weeks ago but from his activity he seems to be fairly active on it! I know I shouldn’t have violated his privacy and logged in to his account but I just feel somethings a bit odd. Why is he saying he doesn’t use it when he does?
Maybe I need to just forget it