A woman has detailed how she learned her dad isn’t her biological father after a stranger reached out and urged her to get a DNA test, saying she has cut off her mother over the decades-long betrayal.
Lane, who is known as @laneiscool14 on TikTok, shared the incredible story of how she connected with her birth father in a series of now-viral videos, including how she recently met him and her half-sisters for the first time.
‘About a year ago now, on January 9, I get a text message telling me to get a DNA test from Ancestry, and I think it’s fake,’ she recalled. ‘I FaceTime my friend, and I’m like, “Listen to this.” And she’s like, “I swear my gut is telling me this is real. You need to respond.”‘
Lane, who is known as @laneiscool14 on TikTok, shared the incredible story of how she learned the dad who raised her isn’t her biological father in a series of now-viral video
Lane admitted she ‘freaked’ when she saw this photo of her birth father and realized how much they look alike
She took her friend’s advice and wrote back, saying she had ‘already done a 23andMe test the year before because it was on sale.’
‘I was hoping I was gonna find that I was like secretly exotic or related to royalty, but I’m just English and Irish like I thought I was,’ she explained.
Lane noted that the person also made a burner account on Facebook to message both her and her husband about taking a DNA test from Ancestry.
‘You have other family you might not be aware of,’ he texted her, though he wouldn’t provide any proof to back up his claims.
‘Obviously, I called my mom immediately, saying, “What the f**k,”‘ said Lane, whose parents divorced when she was nine years old.
‘My mom always told me this story that she was an alcoholic and my dad was a cheater. So when I called her, she says, “I know exactly what you’re talking about. I had an affair.” I almost fell off my f**king chair,’ she recalled. ‘She had an affair with a guy ten years younger than her when she was in college.’
Lane explained that a stranger texted her in January and told her to get a DNA test from Ancestry, claiming she had a family she wasn’t aware of
Lane later clarified that her mom went back to school to become a teacher at 35 and had a ‘one-time’ fling with her biological dad, who was 25 at the time.
‘He even saw her on campus and said, “Is that mine?” and she denied it,’ she said.
She immediately ordered an Ancestry test, and she received the life-changing results six weeks later.
‘I find out that, yes, this man is my father, this stranger,’ she explained. ‘So I message him immediately, and he lives in California. He’s British. What the f**k?
‘He said my mom sent him a Christmas card when I was two years old, saying my name in it and that he’s googled my name ever since. In 2007, my name popped up, and he saw a picture of me, and he knew immediately that I was his daughter.’
Lane said he emailed her mom because he wanted to get in contact with her, but she begged him to leave them alone. Her mother claimed she was ‘mentally unwell’ and ‘might harm herself’ if she ever found out the truth.
‘So what did he do? He followed me on social media my entire life. He watched me date my boyfriend, get married, have babies, everything, all from the outside, not able to know me,’ she explained.
When she called her mother, she admitted that she had a ‘one-time’ affair with another man but never told her or the father who raised her
A DNA test confirmed that the man – who is British and lives in California – is her birth father
The video has been viewed more than 10.4 million times since it was posted on November 30, and thousands of people flocked to the comments to ask questions.
A number of TikTok users were touched that her birth dad used social media to keep track of her for all of these years.
Lane filmed a series of follow-up videos in response, explaining how she finally ended up meeting her biological father.
In 2008, a year after her father had reached out to her mother, she moved to California to go to beauty school. He was living in the state at the time and knew she was there thanks to social media. He once called the salon where she worked just to hear her voice.
‘He even was gonna come in for a haircut, but his wife talked him out of it. She was convinced I would recognize him,’ she said.
Lane didn’t learn the truth until nearly 14 years later, but to many viewers’ surprise, it wasn’t her biological father who had sent her those text messages. It was actually his nephew, who experienced a similar situation and didn’t want her to go through what he did.
To many viewers’ surprise, it wasn’t her biological father who had sent her the text messages. It was his nephew, who had a similar situation and didn’t want her to go through what he did
Lane also shared that the realization her mother has been lying to her for years has led them to become estranged. ‘Cutting my mom off was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done,’ she said
After connecting with her birth dad, she learned she has two half-sisters who are ‘much younger.’ She noted that one of her father’s daughters is only two years older than her son.
Lane also shared that the realization her mother has been lying to her for years has led them to become estranged.
‘You can imagine a secret of this magnitude requires a lot of lying and betrayal and manipulation to keep it up for this long,’ she said. ‘Cutting my mom off was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Never would I have ever expected it. We were like this [crossed fingers] growing up. I used to tell people she was my soulmate.’
Lane added that she met her long-lost father and his family three weeks ago after months of emailing back and forth, but it wasn’t what she imagined it would be.
In another video, she explained that he didn’t make a lot of eye contact with her and it felt like he wasn’t interested in what she had to say.
‘I felt like I was stupid. I felt like he didn’t like me,’ she admitted.
Lane acknowledged that they might just have different personalities, but she said it was particularly difficult to see how he lovingly interacted with his other daughters.
‘Our interactions left me feeling very confused, very invalidated. I was there for like five days. We met up once or twice a day to hang out and go out to eat or something and every time I felt like I was prying information out of him and I just felt like he didn’t like me,’ she recalled.
‘I was A-OK until the last day, and then I got very emotional because I guess I was just hoping by the last day it would be different and when it wasn’t, it was just hard,’ she continued.
Lane said she met her long-lost father three weeks ago, but she felt like he didn’t like her. ‘I hope that our relationship continues to get better,’ she added
Lane revealed in her most recent update that she and the father who raised her still haven’t had a conversation about the news, but he is aware she isn’t his biological daughter
‘So here I am back in New York, and yeah, I hope that our relationship continues to get better,’ she said, shrugging her shoulders.
Lane revealed in her most recent update that she and the father who raised her still haven’t had a conversation about the news, but he is aware she isn’t his biological daughter.
‘You’re all gonna come for me when I tell you this, but the honest to God truth is I haven’t spoken to him about it yet. Before you jump on me, he knows,’ she said.
She explained that one of her older sisters went behind her back and told him while she was waiting to get the test results back, and they are now estranged.
‘I can only imagine he was just as devastated as me, but then there is also the fact that between him and [me], not a lot changes,’ she insisted. ‘That is still my dad. I am still his daughter. My kids are still his grandkids.’
Lane explained that she is taking things at her own pace and will talk to him about it eventually.
‘I just feel like I have two dads now, which is a good thing,’ she concluded.