A woman has sparked a furious debate online after she shared a list of things your husband should ‘never see you do’ – which included popping zits and doing a face mask.
Ingri Pauline, a certified nutrition coach and strength and conditioning specialist from Las Vegas, Nevada, went viral on Twitter earlier this month after she spoke out about the many things that she thinks women should avoid doing in front of their significant others.
According to the fitness guru, if you want your partner to ‘treat you like a lady,’ then you need to ‘act like one.’
She explained that since ‘your husband will inevitably see you at your worst anyway,’ keeping ‘some mystery’ in your relationship will strengthen it.
A woman has sparked a furious debate online after she shared a list of things your husband should ‘never see you do’ – which included popping zits and doing a face mask
Ingri Pauline (seen with her husband), from Las Vegas, Nevada, spoke out about the many things that she thinks women should avoid doing in front of their significant others
According to Ingri, a certified nutrition coach and strength and conditioning specialist, if you want your partner to ‘treat you like a lady,’ then you need to ‘act like one’
She advised against doing any ‘gross human stuff’ like pooping or picking a pimple in front of your spouse, as well as letting him in on any ‘beauty secrets’ – and her controversial position launched a major argument between social media users.
‘Your husband should never see you: poop, pop zits, pluck any hair on your face (beside an eyebrow), do a face mask, wax your bikini line, wear an outfit you would be embarrassed to be seen in by anyone else, and a bunch of other gross fundamentally human stuff,’ she began in the tweet.
‘Why? Because your husband will inevitably see you at your worst anyway and it pays to keep some mystery and act like a lady around him.
‘My husband knows I go to the bathroom and I come out looking and feeling better. That’s it. I like to keep it that way as much as possible.
‘They call them “beauty secrets” for a reason. Do you want him to keep treating you like a lady? Then act like one.’
In addition, Ingri said that you should always have ‘manners’ around your husband, and use words like ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ at all times.
‘Your husband should be the person who gets the MOST of your manners (please, thank you, good bye, welcome home, I love you, etc.) because you will absolutely also give him your worst over the course of your marriage,’ she continued.
‘Manners and mystery are insurance policies against boredom and getting treated like a roommate.’
The fitness guru (seen) explained that since ‘your husband will inevitably see you at your worst anyway,’ keeping ‘some mystery’ in your relationship will strengthen it
She advised against doing any ‘gross human stuff’ like pooping or picking a pimple in front of your spouse, as well as letting him in on any ‘beauty secrets’
The trainer’s post got more than 4.9 million views, and received thousands of replies from people – many of whom disagreed with her, and some whom were on the same page.
‘Intimacy is being able to be 100 per cent one’s self in the presence of another human and trusting that other human to be 100 per cent real as well,’ responded one user.
‘Sorry my relationship is no holds barred, we’re going on 23 years and we are better for it.’
‘You seem to be in the wrong era,’ said someone else. ‘The 1950s had the same ideas: hiding the truth from our partners, for sake of some abstract “feminine mystique.”
‘It was nonsense then and it is nonsense now. If they cannot love us when we are at our most vulnerable, they do not deserve us.’
‘My husband would literally wonder why I was shunning him if I didn’t involve him in all of this,’ joked another person.
The trainer’s post got more than 4.9 million views, and received thousands of replies from people – many of whom disagreed with her, and some whom were on the same page
In a follow-up, Ingri explained that it wasn’t about ‘what a man can handle,’ but instead, it came down to ‘self respect and presenting yourself in the best light you can’
‘Tell me you’re insecure about showing your flaws without actually telling me you’re insecure about showing your flaws,’ read a fourth tweet.
‘I do face masks with my husband. Gotta keep his face fresh too! I’m pregnant, he will be helping me with my bikini line soon,’ wrote a different user.
‘I pop his zits. I keep clothes I like, not clothes I don’t. I see him at all stages and while mystery is good – life is still life.’
‘So, a husband should only know the you that you post online?’ someone else asked.
‘The little things in life build intimacy, because no one else in the world gets to see that side of you, or shouldn’t,’ another person explained.
‘Let each other into the inside of your heart and don’t give those things to others. Build a bubble with just the things you do and say to each other.’
Someone else wrote: ‘It makes me real sad that some women think this way.’
‘An attentive and loving life partner will care for every inch of your body on the worst days,’ added another user. ‘This might take years to master, which is why it’s called practice.’
In a follow-up, Ingri explained that it wasn’t about ‘what a man can handle,’ but instead, it came down to ‘self respect and presenting yourself in the best light you can to the person that spends the most time with you.’
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