A mother-of-four with terminal cancer is raising funds for her wedding and her funeral at the same time.
Susan Rumney, 26, of Workington, Cumbria, was given the devastating news she has incurable cervical cancer two weeks ago.
Doctors say there is nothing they can do to get rid of the disease, which has also spread to her pelvis.
Ms Rumney, mother to Grayson, one, Lexie, three, Mackenzie, eight and her partner’s son Leo, 10, says she is scared to go to sleep for fear she’ll never wake up.
She started gruelling chemotherapy sessions to prolong her life this week and hopes to make her dream of marrying fiance Jay Clark, 38, a reality before it’s too late.
Her sister Lisa, 24, of Whitehaven, has set up an online crowdfunder to raise the money to give her a dream wedding and then use the excess money to later take the pressure off the grieving family and pay for her funeral.
Susan Rumney, 26, of Workington, Cumbria (pictured with fiance Jay Clark) was given the devastating news she has incurable cervical cancer two weeks ago. Her sister Lisa wants her to have the dream wedding – and the dream funeral
Ms Rumney is pictured on her hospital bed with fiance Jay, who she hopes to marry before it’s too late
She said: ‘The diagnosis was a real shock and Susan is petrified; she’s scared of going to sleep and not waking up.
‘The chemo can’t cure her cancer but it can prolong her life and keep her out of pain.’
Susan and Jay, 38, have been together for many years and the thought of being able to fulfil their wedding dream has provided a ray of light during these tough days.
What causes cervical cancer and what are the symptoms?
Cancer of the cervix often has no symptoms in its early stages.
If you do have symptoms, the most common is abnormal vaginal bleeding, which can occur during or after sex, in between periods, or new bleeding after you have been through the menopause.
Abnormal bleeding doesn’t mean you have cervical cancer, but you should see your GP as soon as possible to get it checked out.
Almost all cases of cervical cancer are caused by HPV.
HPV is a very common virus that can be passed on through any type of sexual contact with a man or a woman.
There are more than 100 types (strains) of HPV, many of which are harmless. However, some types can cause abnormal changes to the cells of the cervix, which can eventually lead to cervical cancer.
Two strains, HPV 16 and HPV 18, are known to be responsible for most cases of cervical cancer. They don’t have any symptoms, so women will not realise they have it.
‘They’re definitely a loving couple,’ Lisa continued, ‘and Jay has really stepped up and is doing an amazing job at looking after the children while Susan is in hospital.
‘I can’t believe how generous people have been.
‘My experience of life and people hasn’t been great, but for everyone to show us all this love has really changed my view of the world.
‘It has definitely picked Susan up too; it’s something to look forward to. Someone has offered to go to hospital and show her some wedding dresses, which is beautiful.’
The appeal has already raised £5,300 in less than a week.
Ms Rumney’s diagnosis comes towards the end of an already tough year, after her mother died suddenly in January.
Lisa said: ‘I barely leave the house due to my anxiety and mental health, but this is about Susan and what we’ve got to do for however long she’s got – we know the cancer will beat her.’
Her sister started having a pain in her leg at about the time her mother died.
She sought medical advice and doctors initially put it down to a blood clot, before later changing their diagnosis to sepsis.
But two weeks ago she found out the real cause of her pain – and with it the devastating diagnosis.
Lisa said: ‘The older children know that she has cancer, but the younger two don’t really understand.
‘They just know she’s poorly and goes in and out of hospital. It’s heartbreaking.’
Doctors say there is nothing they can do to get rid of Ms Rumney’s form of the disease, which has also spread to her pelvis. Pictured: Susan Rumney and Jay Clark