A dance teacher from Kent was left devastated when a man she met on a dating app said he would only consider meeting her if she ‘made an effort’ at the gym.
Samantha Drain was chatting to Michael, whose did not give his full name, while using Bumble – an app that allows the woman to speak first – when he sent her an unsolicited photo of another woman and said she could look like her if she spent more time working out.
He went on to tell the 23-year-old that he thought she was a ‘five or six out of 10’ while he was a ‘ten out of ten’, and they therefore weren’t an equal match.
Michael added that she seemed the ‘desperate waiting type’ and that he would only consider having sex with her if she improved her physique.
Recently single Samantha, who explained that she’d allowed Michael to add her on Facebook and Instagram, said the exchange had knocked her confidence and that seeing the message when she was at her Christmas party ‘ruined’ her night.
Dance teacher Samantha Drain was gutted when she received the unsolicited message from the man named Michael
Michael went on to tell the 23-year-old that he thought she was a ‘five or six out of 10’ while he was a ‘ten out of ten’, and they therefore weren’t an equal match
Samantha had previously only had a brief conversation with Michael but had not heard from him until out of the blue on Tuesday (December 12).
After posting the image of another woman, he wrote: “Hey Sam, I can call you Sam right???
“So you see the girl in the pic? That what you could look like if you put a tiny bit of effort out in the gym, thank me later[sic].
“So when you look even the tiniest bit like her I’ll consider meeting up with you but at the moment it’s no way hosay, anyways sorry, YES of course I can make it [sic].”
Samantha responded in shock: ‘I’m sorry but how f*****g dare you.’
But Michael then followed her reply with several spelling and grammatical errors, saying: “How f*****g dare I?
“Well SAM! I’ll tell you how… So I’m not gunna lie I’m a 10/10 and your clearly a 5 at a push 6 so with my advice I could push you to a 7 which would make me want to smash your back doors in. But at the moment it’s a no, sorry babe but mike pumper has to move on!
Samantha, who posted the screenshots on social media, had only spoken briefly to Michael when he had sent the message
“When your looking tip top I’ll let you know, you look like the desperate waiting type so I’ll hold you to that, Thanks, Love Mike [sic].”
Samantha, who posted the screenshots on social media, explained: ‘I was on my Christmas party when he messaged and I thought there is my night ruined.
‘I have only recently become single and I am not the most confident person. It takes a lot for me to get the courage to just say hello to someone. It is just really upsetting for anyone to be spoken to like that.
‘I let him add me on Facebook and he started following me on Instagram, which is how he saw all my photos. We did have conversations about meeting up but I still didn’t know him well enough. We all have our own insecurities and he was just throwing them in face.’
The inappropriate messages knocked Samantha’s confidence and she admits she doesn’t know if she will continue to use the app
Samantha has since reported Michael’s behaviour to Bumble and has blocked him on all social media.
She added: ‘It is really not okay for a guy to speak like that and that is why I put it on social media.
‘There are girls like me who aren’t confident in themselves and might not have such support around them.
‘I was talking to a few people on Bumble but really this experience has me feeling like I can’t be bothered going through this again.
‘I have had lots of positive messages from friends, people I have not spoken to in a while, to complete strangers. It has been fantastic.’