Bride labelled bridezilla by partner after future mother-in-law asked her not to use her wheelchair

A young woman has been labelled a ‘bridezilla’ by her partner after slamming his mother for suggesting she hide her wheelchair in photos on her wedding day. 

The bride-to-be uses the chair every day and while she can stand and walk she ‘doesn’t do it well’ and it causes excruciating amounts of pain.

The mother-in-law was horrified when she found out the chair would be used on the day and urged the bride to reconsider ‘for her own sake’.  

The older woman told the young bride she wanted her to look nice in the photos on the day and would hate for her to regret missing out on normal photos.

‘I’m pretty upset at this I won’t lie, I felt like she was acting as if my chair was something to hide or worse something ugly with how she talked about how it’d be better for pictures and look nicer,’ she wrote on Reddit.

‘I told her to mind her own f***ing business and that I’d do whatever I feel is best and that as it’s my wedding and I’m paying for the photographer I’ll decide how I want to look for my pictures,’ she explained.

But her reaction didn’t go down well with her future husband’s mother who said she was being ‘touchy and unreasonable’ by getting upset and refusing to take her ideas on board.

‘She even complained to my partner about this and he has told me that I am being a ‘bridezilla’ with how aggressive I’ve been to his mother.

‘He said I need to be less touchy, and that I can use my chair on the day but I can’t jump down his mother’s throat like that,’ she wrote.

The bride explained she is sensitive about negative comments toward the chair as she grew up being bullied about her appearance.

She posted on the forum to ask if she should have ignored her bruised feelings and been nicer to her mother-in-law.

But many people agreed that she was the only person not in the wrong in the situation.

One man said he was furious for the young woman and hoped she understood her partner’s behaviour was a huge red flag.

‘Your husband-to-be is an a**hole for getting upset with you for putting his ableist mother in her place, as is she for even suggesting that you hide your chair,’ he wrote.

‘And the fact he said ‘you can use your chair on the day’ It’s not his pain nor body, not his decision,’ he added.

And the commenter wasn’t alone in criticising the woman’s husband-to-be with many suggesting he may have asked his mother to talk to her about the chair.

‘The way he’s calling her a ‘bridezilla’ for ‘jumping down his mother’s throat’ about defending her decision to use her makes me think that if it’s not his idea to begin with he at the very least sees nothing wrong with coercing OP to push herself to do something she’s not comfortable with. 

‘Makes me think the apple didn’t fall very far from the tree,’ one woman said.

While another man told her to ‘reconsider the wedding’ because their actions show they don’t full accept her as a human. 

Others shared their own similar experiences – including one woman who said people couldn’t believe it when she said she wanted to wear her glasses.

‘I’ve worn glasses since I’ve been 12 and I’m pretty blind without them, so yes, I am going to wear them. I also don’t look like myself without glasses,’ she said. 

More than 300 people commented on the post to reassure the bride she was not in the wrong for expressing her opinion on the matter.