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Ex man who dumped her for Ukrainian refugee ‘wouldn’t have him back in a million years’

The jilted girlfriend of British man who dumped her for Ukrainian refugee he welcomed into their home after Putin’s invasion has ruled out getting back together with him and said she ‘knew it would end in disaster for them’.

Tony Garnett, 30, ditched his partner of ten years Lorna Garnett, 22, for Sofiia Karkadym just 10 days after she arrived at their Bradford home. 

Just four months later, the security guard now claims that he has broken up with Sofiia and thrown her out of their rented home, after accusing her of not being able to handle alcohol, using a knife to damage a wall and interfering with his relationship with his two daughters.

Lorna, the mother of Tony’s two children, has now told her friends that she ‘knew it would end in disaster’ for them – but was surprised that it happened so quickly.

She is unable to speak publicly about Tony due to court proceedings, but The Sun reported that she told her friends that she would not take him back ‘in a million years’.

She added: ‘He has thrown away so much. He can’t see me because of a restraining order and he hasn’t been seeing the children. But it’s hard to feel any sympathy.’

A friend reportedly said that Lorna has been hurt Tony’s actions but has remained strong and that ‘her entire focus has been on the children’.

Tony Garnett, 30, left the mother of his two children, 28-year-old Lorna Garnett (pictured), for Ukrainian refugee Sofiia Karkadym after 10 days. He has now broken up with Sofiia, but Lorna said she ‘wouldn’t have him back in a million years’

Tony Garnett, 30, left his partner of ten years for Ukrainian refugee Sofiia Karkadym, 22, after 10 days of her living with them. They have split, MailOnline can reveal

Tony Garnett, 30, left his partner of ten years for Ukrainian refugee Sofiia Karkadym, 22, after 10 days of her living with them. They have split, MailOnline can reveal

Tony Garnett at his Bradford home with his ex-girlfriend's luggage  and belongings in bin liners waiting to be collected

Tony Garnett at his Bradford home with his ex-girlfriend’s luggage  and belongings in bin liners waiting to be collected

Tony dumped Sofiaa after accusing her of not being able to handle alcohol and using a knife to damage a wall at their rented home in Bradford (pictured)

Tony dumped Sofiaa after accusing her of not being able to handle alcohol and using a knife to damage a wall at their rented home in Bradford (pictured)

Tony has said: ‘I have made a mistake going into a relationship with Sofiia'

 Tony has said: ‘I have made a mistake going into a relationship with Sofiia’

In an exclusive interview with MailOnline, Tony revealed : ‘I am 100 per cent through with her. We are finished as a couple.’

Tony claimed that matters came to a head when they rowed on Saturday night while celebrating his 30th birthday at their home in Bradford, West Yorkshire. He said he ended up calling police after Sofiia apparently damaged a wall, leading to officers attending the address.

Tony told MailOnline how he had become ‘fed up’ with what he described as her irrational behaviour during the four-and-a-half months they were together.

He said: ‘I can’t take her abuse or anger any longer.

‘I left Lorna and my two children for her, and I made every extra effort I could to help her keep us together.

‘I worked so hard to make this relationship work. I knew that we would look like tw*ts if we broke up because we have a media profile and all the attention that has been put on us on television and on the internet.

Sofiia Karkadym (pictured) arrived in the UK at the start of May after fleeing the war in Ukraine

Sofiia Karkadym (pictured) arrived in the UK at the start of May after fleeing the war in Ukraine 

‘I also genuinely felt sorry for her. She left her home and her country which was at war and knew nobody here.

‘Yes, I felt and I thought I was in love with her. But there is a side to her which I just cannot put up with any longer. She gets angry and aggressive.

He claimed that: ‘On Saturday night she picked up a knife and stabbed the wall several times.

‘It really scared me and I had no choice but to call the police. That doesn’t make me happy at all. But I was worried about my safety. ‘

The row happened when two other Ukrainian refugees – Sofiia Rastorhuieva and her boyfriend Illia Tronevych – were staying with the couple.

They had moved in with Tony and Sofiia after he saw a desperate appeal from them on Facebook, asking for accommodation.

Heavily tattooed Tony added: ‘I have made a mistake going into a relationship with Sofiia.

‘As I have said before, my relationship with Lorna was already over and I was really unhappy.

‘But this wasn’t the right thing for me. I have tried to help her. I really have.

‘I haven’t abandoned her and have even been messaging her mother to get her to help with the aid of Google Translate.

She may be suffering from PTSD. But she is from Kyiv where there hasn’t been much of the war.

‘I hope that she finds somewhere safe to live and is in a happier place. But she’s not for me.’

Tony, who received a barrage of online abuse over his relationship with Sofiia, said he would be looking for a new home soon and would also part with the other Ukrainian refugees.

He said that Sofiia had sent him a string of messages since the bust-up, saying that she loved him and begging for a reconciliation.

But he said he had told her that he did not want back her back, saying he had already given her ‘chance after chance after chance’.

Tony said he had accused her of ‘ruining’ his 30th birthday.

He claimed he told her that he would be contacting the local council and the Home Office to try and get her re-housed.

Tony and Lorna first took in Sofiia after applying to be part of the Government’s refugee scheme because they wanted to help people fleeing from war-torn Ukraine

Just 10 days after moving in with the Garnett family, Sofiia (pictured) and lover Tony moved out

The IT manager (pictured) is now renting a property in Bradford with Tony after he left his partner and kids

IT manager Sofiia (pictured) was renting a property in Bradford with Tony after he left his partner and children four months ago

The couple were making plans to visit Sofiia's family back in Ukraine so that Tony can formally ask her father for his daughter's hand in marriage. Tony has said their relationship is over

The couple were making plans to visit Sofiia’s family back in Ukraine so that Tony can formally ask her father for his daughter’s hand in marriage. Tony has said their relationship is over

But Tony grew impatient at how long the process was taking and joined Facebook groups where Ukrainians were looking for sponsors.

He made contact with Sofiia through one of the groups and she arrived in the UK on May 4 and she went to live in Bradford with him and Lorna and their daughters, aged three and six.

Tony told how they ‘just clicked’ and got on really well straight away, partly because he could speak Slovakian which is similar to Ukrainian.

The two them started chatting in a language Lorna did not understand, staying up to watch TV after she had gone to bed and regularly went to gym with each other.

They both said that although they were ‘getting on brilliantly’ at this time, ‘it was no more than that’ and ‘innocent’.

But they ended up ‘finding excuses to touch and brush against each other’ and things got tense in the house.

Tony said he would return home to meals cooked by Sofiia who would tell him how ‘lucky Lorna was to have him’.

Lorna was angry about the situation that she eventually asked Sofiia to leave the family’s home just ten days after she arrived

But she was shocked when Tony told her: ‘If she’s going, I’m going’.

The new couple ended up moved in with Tony’s parents before finding their own place and beginning the process of applying for a permanent visa for Sofiia.

Tony said at the time: ‘I am so sorry for what Lorna is going through, this was not her fault and it was not about anything she did wrong.’

Sofiia added: ‘As soon as I saw him I fancied him. It’s been very quick but this is our love story. I know people will think badly of me but it happens. I could see how unhappy Tony was.’

The couple later talked of their hopes of getting married and having children of their own, once Tony had his vasectomy reversed.

He told MailOnline: ‘I want to propose to this beautiful lady,’

Sofiia said: ‘We are planning our life together. I want to be a mother. I want to have children.

‘I am a young woman so it can wait a few years and I hope that Tony can have his vasectomy reversed so that we can become a family together.’

As their ill-fated relationship made headlines, Tony revealed that he had suffered a torrent of abuse on social media over his decision to leave his family home.

He even spoke of his hopes of launching a pop career after recording a rap about their experiences.

Tony also insisted that his relationship with Lorna was already on the rocks before he met Sofiia.

One of Lorna’s friends told back in May how the now single mum was ‘devastated’.

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