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Tommy Dorfman and ex Peter Zurkuhlen agree to divorce terms nine months after filing

Tommy Dorfman and her ex-husband Peter Zurkuhlen are nearing the end of their divorce process.

The 30-year-old actress and the 34-year-old tech company founder have both filed for a stipulated judgment of dissolution, People reported on Tuesday.

The filing, which comes nine months after Zurkuhlen filed for divorce, also follows Dorfman’s announcement in August that she had gotten engaged to a woman.

End in sight: Tommy Dorfman (R) and her ex-husband Peter Zurkuhlen (L) have agreed to divorce terms nine months after Zurkuhlen filed for divorce, according to People; seen in February 2020 in Milan, Italy

In documents obtained by the publication, the former couple request that their marriage be declared ‘terminated,’ while ‘the parties are restored to the status of single persons.’

The filing also states that ‘irreconcilable differences have arisen between the parties that have led to the irreparable breakdown of the marriage, making it impossible for the parties to live together as husband and wife.’

The couple should be able to keep both of their fortunes intact, as neither party is requesting spousal support.

However, the terms they filed indicate how the exes plan to divide their properties, as well as bank accounts that they previously shared.

The end: In documents obtained by the publication, the exes request their marriage be declared 'terminated,' while 'the parties are restored to the status of single persons'; Dorfman seen in May in NYC

The end: In documents obtained by the publication, the exes request their marriage be declared ‘terminated,’ while ‘the parties are restored to the status of single persons’; Dorfman seen in May in NYC

Split: The 30-year-old actress and the 34-year-old tech company founder are not seeking spousal support, though they have determined how to split their properties and bank accounts; seen in 2018 in LA

Split: The 30-year-old actress and the 34-year-old tech company founder are not seeking spousal support, though they have determined how to split their properties and bank accounts; seen in 2018 in LA

The longtime couple appear to have moved apart due to incompatibilities following Dorfman’s transition. She came out as non-binary in late 2017 and initially adopted gender-neutral they/them pronouns, but in July of last year she revealed that she was a transgender woman and began publicly using she/her pronouns.

At the time, she shared in an interview with Time that she had been ‘privately identifying and living as a woman’ for a year. 

‘I view today as a reintroduction to me as a woman, having made a transition medically,’ she said at the time, while distancing herself from the phrase ‘coming out,’ as she said she ‘was never not out’ after sharing her physical transition over time on social media.

After Dorfman’s announcement, Zurkuhlen was publicly supportive on Instagram.

‘So much love. You are gorgeous and you are fully you. Proud of you, T,’ he wrote while sharing a post she made announcing her gender.

Finding herself: Dorfman came out as non-binary in 2017 and later revealed she was a transgender woman in July 2021 after living as a woman privately for a year; seen in June in NYC

Finding herself: Dorfman came out as non-binary in 2017 and later revealed she was a transgender woman in July 2021 after living as a woman privately for a year; seen in June in NYC

The 13 Reasons Why actress and Zurkuhlen met way back in 2005, and they got engaged a decade later before tying the knot in Portland, Maine, in 2016.

In her Time interview, the actress-turned-director explained that she and her then-husband had worked to ‘redefine’ their relationship.

‘It’s wild to be 29 and going through puberty again. Some days I feel like I’m 14,’ she explained. ‘As a result of that shift, the types of romantic partnerships I seek out are different. 

‘I was in a nine-year relationship in which I was thought of as a more male-bodied person, with a gay man. I love him so much, but we’ve been learning that as a trans woman, what I’m interested in is not necessarily reflected in a gay man,’ she continued. ‘So we’ve had incredible conversations to redefine our relationship as friends. Transitioning has been liberating and clarifying.’

Changes: She shared with Time that she and her ex had redefined their marriage as friends after she began transitioning; seen in November 2021 in NYC

Changes: She shared with Time that she and her ex had redefined their marriage as friends after she began transitioning; seen in November 2021 in NYC

In August, Dorfman revealed that she had gotten engaged to a ‘cis woman’ amid her divorce proceedings while chatting with Rachel Bilson on her Broad Ideas podcast. 

Tommy stopped short of revealing the identity of her fiancée, though she did describe her as ‘just a gay girl.’

Back in April, she shared in a TikTok video documenting her fluid sexuality, in which she said that she ‘went from being a straight boy to a gay boy to a non-binary person to a trans straight woman — I thought — to I guess I am a trans lesbian.’

While speaking with Rachel, Tommy admitted that she ‘knew I was interested in women in a way that I hadn’t really been aware of since high school,’ via Just Jared.

‘I had this unresolved, unexplored thing. I was like, “This is the year that I’m gonna go on some dates with girls and feel that out again, and not feel ashamed about it.”‘

Time for a change: In August, Dorfman revealed on Rachel Bilson's podcast that she had gotten engaged to a 'cis woman'; seen in April in NYC

Time for a change: In August, Dorfman revealed on Rachel Bilson’s podcast that she had gotten engaged to a ‘cis woman’; seen in April in NYC

However, the Sharp Stick actress admitted she was afraid to be open about her attraction to women, as she had become a ‘safe’ figure to many of her women friends when she previously identified as a gay man.

‘Because they thought of me as a gay man, they were like, “Oh, like you’re the safest person in the world,”‘ she explained. ‘And then suddenly, I transition and I become a little bit more threatening, in my head.’

Striking up a relationship with her fiancée was a big step, as she was the first woman Tommy had been with in a ‘very long time,’ though she found the experience to be ‘very affirming.’

‘It’s safe. Also not safe, and like being in love is so scary,’ she continued. ‘So uncomfortable, so painful. All the universal feelings of being in love that are probably the same.’

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