A Facebook group that offers women the chance to exchange notes on the men they are dating has now taken off in the UK after gaining traction in the US.
Women can warn each other of ‘men who might be liars, cheaters, abusers or exhibit any type of toxic or dangerous behavior’ in cities across the UK on the site.
Users generally submit screenshots of Tinder matches and Hinge finds on the Are We Dating the Same Guy? forum to gain intel on what they are really like, amid fears surrounding the dangers of online dating.
Many claim to have made huge discoveries on the platform, with one sharing on Reddit that they their love interest turned out to have a pregnant partner.
They posted: ‘I’m in my city’s group which has like 30,000 supportive women. I found out that the guy I started seeing had a pregnant partner!
‘And I’ve asked about a couple of other guys, the group has been very helpful. I feel like there is absolutely no reason why any woman would NOT post in there asking for some “reviews” about her man.’
A Facebook group called Are We Dating the Same Guy? has taken the UK by storm as the London group already has 20,000 members
Women share dating tips, warnings for dangerous men, and any information potential love interests might want to hear in the group
More than 20,000 people alone have joined Are We Dating the Same Guy? for Londoners, while Nottingham, Swindon and a number of other city groups have also started to amass thousands of followers.
One of the top London posts gained over 60 comments, with a man posing topless slammed as a ‘walking red flag’ by the ghosts of his past and another knowing his former fiancée, according to The Times.
Another user told the newspaper that she joined the group after getting a bad gut instinct about a man she was having an ‘exclusive’ relationship.
In a matter of weeks, another user had posted a screenshot of the same person in the group, prompting her to cut ties.
‘I never told him why, but I ended things with him soon after that,’ she said.
Are We Dating the Same Guy? is also used to seek general dating advice, with the option of being anonymous offered.
The London group states: ‘This group is a place for women to protect and empower other women while warning each other of men who might be liars, cheaters, abusers, or exhibit any type of toxic or dangerous behavior.
‘We strive to cultivate an atmosphere of female empowerment, acceptance, and support and will not tolerate any bullying, gaslighting, shaming, victim blaming, or aggressive behavior towards any other girls in the group.’
The group’s rules also state that ‘mean spirited or judgmental comments’ will not be tolerated, especially in relation to a person’s appearance.
‘This group is not about hating men,’ it emphasises.
The platform is also used to seek general dating advice, with the option of being anonymous offered
The success of Are We Dating the Same Guy? comes at a time when more women are feeling unprotected by police authorities in the UK
Yet the group has been criticised for encouraging a toxic culture of gossiping and invasion of privacy.
One Reddit user said: ‘I don’t know how I feel about this. Unless there is a serious danger then I’m uncomfortable with the idea.
‘What if a woman decides to make up lies about a guy and post it in that group?’
Another added: ‘The way people share men’s profiles without permission is crazy. Imagine one of your dates not liking you and going out of their way to tar your name across the internet.’
The success of Are We Dating the Same Guy? comes at a time when many women are feeling unprotected by police authorities in the UK.
Former Metropolitan Police cop, David Carrick, was recently unmasked as one of Britain’s most prolific sex offenders.
He abused and tortured 12 victims over nearly two decades after telling victims ‘I’m a police officer, you can trust me’ and flashing his warrant card.
In 2021, policeman Wayne Couzens also used Covid laws to stop, handcuff and stage the fake arrest of Sarah Everard before strangling her ‘with his police belt’.
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