‘I feel really bad’: Radio host, 45, who wants to use her ex’s sperm to have a child with her new boyfriend says she HASN’T spoken to him – despite going public with the idea
- Radio host Bianca Dye has struggled for years to have a child of her own
- After miscarriages, she wants to conceive a child from an embryo with her ex
- She revealed despite multiple media interviews she hasn’t asked him directly
- Ms Dye has always been public with her fertility struggles, hoping to help others
Radio host Bianca Dye has been talking about using an embryo created with her ex-partner to have a child for days – but she still hasn’t spoken to him about it.
The Brisbane based radio presenter froze 13 eggs and two embryos with her former partner, and after three miscarriages and six rounds of costly and traumatic IVF treatments in just eight years, Ms Dye has now exhausted all of her eggs.
Ms Dye, 45, still has embryos she froze with her ex-partner, and wants to use them to try to conceive a child with her new partner Jay.
To do this, her ex will have to give his permission for them to be used – a hurdle Ms Dye is yet to jump, though she presumes he has seen her recent interviews on the subject.
‘I feel really bad because we haven’t spoken,’ she told Today.
‘Of course he will know about this. He will have seen all of this. He knows I work in media. He worked in media too – he understands how it works.’
Ms Dye said she would need to test the two embryos to see if they were viable before having them implanted, and would need his permission to do so. The pair have not spoken in three years.
‘There’s an incredible technology where I can test the embryos to see if they’re worth putting in me so I don’t have to go through the pain of having a miscarriage,’ she explained.
‘I have to get his permission. I guess I will be sending him a message pretty soon.’
Ms Dye told Nine Honey she would send him a Facebook message to ask if they could talk, though she was certain he would already know what she wanted to discuss.
She said she’d understand if he denied her access to the embryos, and believed there would be an option for her to be a mother one way or another.
‘Maybe I was meant to be a mum in other ways,’ she says. ‘If it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be.’
Brisbane based radio presenter Bianca Dye (pictured) wants to use an embryo she froze with her former partner to have a child, but has revealed she is yet to ask him for permission
Ms Dye was already having expensive IVF treatments in 2015 when she learned she had endometriosis, a painful condition that can cause fertility problems, and affects one in ten women.
She has always been public about her attempts to have a child, and told Today hosts Deborah Knight and Georgie Gardener she wanted to normalise the conversation, so women did not have to feel alone if they were struggling to conceive.
‘I want people to know they’re not alone in their journey or in having miscarriages and there are options,’ she said.
She said she wanted women to know more about egg freezing, and that it could be an option for them, regardless of what stage they’re at in life.
‘If I end being the poster girl for what not to do and if that’s my legacy and I don’t have a biological child and I end up being a great step-mum to Maddie that’s OK,’ she said.
‘I’m OK with that. I have made peace with that. If one woman comes up to me in 10 years and says I wasn’t going to freeze my eggs and I did and I have this beautiful child and that’s because you put yourself on the line and made it public, you know what? It’s worth it.
‘It’s OK with me.’
She wants to raise the child with her new partner Jay Sandtner (pictured together) – a father of four himself, and says she can understand if her former partner had reservations